Serious question: Do you think your parents are/were good parents?

[Sweetsurprize]

How do you think they would have handled it if, instead of getting "you" (this version of you), they got a physically or mentally disabled child instead. Do you think they would've handled it well or not?

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Or even BOTH physically and mentally disabled.

[provokeesmokee]

No. They neglected, abused, and stole from me. And while I'm not a perfect person and certainly had numerous undiagnosed and untreated mental illnesses in childhood, I was capable of being independent and functional.

My mother still hated being a parent so much she had several occasions when she pulled a knife out in front of me at home threatening suicide.

She'd have actually gone through with either her suicide, or more likely, a family murder-suicide at her hands, if I had been less functional.

[Sweetsurprize]

Oh geez that's insane. I hope she is getting the help that she needs and you are as far away from her as you can be for your safety! It's too bad you went through that! That sucks. I hope you're in a better, safer situation these days!

[Anonymous]

No.. my mom is a diagnosed narcissist that secretly drugged me, starved me and let me sleep on benches outside. She also told me I deserve to be bullied. My dad was very distant and loved watching my mom abuse me.

But I've forgiven them. I believe in forgiveness as a Christian so I still see them now when I have my own place I have power to just leave if they act up and they know that. They are evil, I know but Jesus word comes first.

[Twalli]

I honestly don't think I could have had better parents. I am on the Autism Spectrum, so I needed a fair bit of help adjusting and such. Because we were upper class, they were able to get me that help. To give you an idea of the help I need, I am still living with them, and the only times I didn't was when I was at college. Both times I was at college I nearly died because I did not remember to eat.

[Wonderingguyy]

My mum was a good parent in most ways. My dad however, wasn’t. I can’t imagine them being able to raise a disabled child properly though.

[Apple1996]

Yes my parents are amazing. And some of my siblings have disabilities so yes they treat them good too. Better then they treat me which is fair since they've always needed more attention.

[love_conquers_lust]

Was it better or fair? Devoting more effort to other siblings because they didn’t get the same fair shake at life the rest of us did is sensible and fair. I had the same thing with my sibling. I was typically so busy with myself I didn’t mind or always notice. There was always that attachment that my sibling had for me, probably because I didn’t have to deal with the shit she did, her desire to be more normal. And she was fortunate to turn out that way. Life is just, funny, like that.

[WindSwept]

Overall yes but they’ve been way too overbearing, intolerant, and hovering. It’s forced me to hide things from them that in my opinion are just part of growing up, being normal, and being human.

[exitseven]

My parents were not perfect but they were good parents. I don;t know how they would have handled a disabled child.

[NathanDavis]

yes, they were... and they're good grand parents now

[smilelots]

my mom taught me how to live and do things for myself at a very young age , im very thankful for that.. cook clean dishes cut grass BBQ Laundry etc. My sperm donor was never around. thanks mom

[Nifrayu]

No. Not really. To their credit there were things they got right. But there were things they got horribly wrong.

[LiamJHayden]

They were beyond awesome. Also, if I could have a relationship like theirs all of my anti-marriage positions would evaporate instantly.

[love_conquers_lust]

Yes. It was other parents and their kids that were the major issues.

[msc545]

My father was a good parent. My mother was not.

[Jmmmfi4]

My mom to my daughter... oh lord yes

My dad to my daughter... fuck no. But I didn't want him around her anyway

[Nikki1989]

No, not at all.

[Christoff92]

Every parent or parents have their differences