My cousin is on the autism spectrum and can be very gullible and doesn’t wanna accept reality. She’s always living in la la land, when someone tells her the truth or the fact of life, she dismisses it and doesn’t listen. She likes to snoop around and listen to people’s private conversations, she acts vain and very whiny when things aren’t focused on her, and she’ll tell others secrets behind their backs. Her parents don’t do anything about it and always excuse her autism for bad behavior. One time she was hanging with me and she said she wanted to get closer and get to know each other and she did NONE OF THAT. She didn’t bother to talk to me or ask how I am, always rants about her problems, made conversations about herself and she’s so selfish! She doesn’t get it. She publicly humiliated in front of my friends by telling them about my personal things that I never told her about! I was so embarrassed and didn’t speak to her. She wondered why I didn’t speak to her so I needed to have a blunt, direct talk with her. She asked me that is it wonderful that we’re hanging out and things are perfect. I bluntly told her it isn’t and things with her are worthless. I hit her with the hard truth and I told her every single moment with her has been very rotten and she doesn’t even know me or even made an effort to understand my feelings because she’s too damn busy focusing on herself and how perfect things are. I told her that’s no wonder she has no friends and even some family doesn’t invite be because nobody likes her. I told her I can’t stand her. She got very upset and burst into tears and ran off. Well the truth needed to be said. Her parents weren’t going to do it. Her parents won’t be around forever so she better learn boundaries and woman the hell up.
She’s 17. I’m 24 and her older cousin.
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When teaching anyone anything... no matter your age. . no matter your title. There is a right way. And a wrong way.
It's kind of like going to church and having a preacher stand up in front of you reading a paragraph from a book.. let's call it the Bible.
And after he reads it.. he tells you his thoughts on what it means and if you don't believe in what he just said then the odds are you're going to go to hell
So what is he promoting what is he teaching is he teaching what the book just said with the word said.
Or is he teaching control or manipulation
Is it really about the words in the book or is it all about him and the way he sees it and the way he feels it.
You have never been able to learn things that way
So let me ask you this as a teacher what did you teach yourself in that moment
If she's actually partially autistic, autistic people have a hard time reading social ques and knowing how act appropriately in certain situations. Especially when it comes to knowing how people are going to feel and react and being conscious of that.
No excuse. She needs to learn how to LISTEN and to be considerate about other people besides herself. Honestly people like her frustrate the shit outta me. Not trying to be harsh but just being honest.
If you actually want to help her learn about autism. Her brain works differently than yours so doing what works on a neurotypical person isn't going to work as well or sometimes at all with someone who is neurodivergent.
Why is everyone making excuses for her? She’s old enough to know better. She spilled my personal things to everyone and I don’t know how she found out. She always gets away with get behavior and her parents (my aunt and uncle) aren’t doing anything about it and I’m angry at them. The rest of my family stepped in to put her in her place when her lousy parents wouldn’t.
It's not an age thing. You clearly have no idea what autism is.
Whatever I don’t like her. She isn’t too fond of me either but I don’t care.