Did I over share and am I self centered?

Question

So, I have this male coworker who seems very nice. He and I started to open up a little more about our personal life. Mostly me answering questions about my husband and kids. He himself wanted to know more about my husband and kids. “ how did you two meet” and “ what does he do”. I can sometimes get carried away especially when talking about my family. I ended up telling him more about them and expressing my love for them by sharing nice family moments. I remember only asking one question about himself. Then I proceeded to talk about my family again.

lol I feel so stupid. I’m not good at reading people or social cues. I may have bored him and felt self centered.

No female coworker asks me about my personal life and I thought us women were more noisy. When people do ask, I tend to get carried away! But anyways need to ask did I make a fool out of myself?

I’m done talking about my self to anyone. I feel so self centered!

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Just wait for him to reach out again if he wants to talk. I think men prefer it when women do most of the talking, and they actually don't like it when women (or anyone) asks them questions, because they view questions as more like interviews rather than showing interest. By you talking, it gives him opportunities to talk by chiming in whenever he has something relevant to say, whether it is advice, or demonstrating how happy he is too with his family.

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

Huh? You are worried about telling him about what he asked about? I don't get it. He said he wanted to know more about your family so you told him exactly that. That isn't being self centered at all. He wanted to know. I think that you are over thinking this big time. You really shouldn't feel stupid or that you did anything wrong. He just wanted to get to know things about your life. Don't worry about it or feel bad.