My younger 32 year-old brother (only a year younger though) got married in 2019, they have faternal twins (boy and girl) and he's a physician with his own clinic too. He made it this far but he wasn't always like this.
Several years ago I found out he was really an absolute jerk as a teen; he would take advantage of his popular status to bully guys that were seen as weaker, had stuttering issues or the quiet/socially awkward ones. There was a guy named Jeff he used to bully the most. He used to be on Jeff's case from 6th to 10th grade. Sometime in 10th grade, Jeff finally lost it. He literally beat him in a fight (admitted by my own brother), knocking him into submission. My brother himself told me he deserved that for the longest.
Apparently my brother had gotten away with it for so long and Jeff put an end to it for good. Ironically, Jeff is now one of his good friends. He made amends to the other guys he picked on too afterwards. His old reputation was gone forever but came a new one, a better one. I found it quite shocking that my own brother used to behave like that because we never got abused/hit at home. I turned out ok from the start (I was always into helping others) but my brother had to be beaten into submission.
Why does it sometimes take that to change?
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Because he (your brother) probably finally realized that getting beat up isn’t worth it and being a bully isn’t the way to be.
I guess Jeff did a good job in the end. He changed him forever. My parents always thought I was going to be the child heading to medicine school but I got bored long studies and instead my brother turned out to be the doctor. Talk about surprised ending. Then this is interesting. He told me himself that no amount of ''treat others with respect'' long lectures nor making him write an apology letter to the kids he bullied back then would've worked out at the time. He was literally over his head with the popularity thing and really arrogant at the time. I was shocked. Wow, he really was an absolute jerk.
Also, being beat up humbles people.
People don't usually change until they suffer the consequences of their actions
The irony is he's good friends with Jeff, the very kid that destroyed his old reputation. He himself told me it was deserved for the longest. For someone that was so arrogant, he humbled a lot alright.