How do I not be annoyed about friends or family who don't show up to events I ask them to?

[hardboiledink]

It takes a lot of energy and time to organize events, not even just special occasions, but just hanging out at arcades, restaurants, to see movies, to watch fights.

How do I not take it personally that some friends and fam don't respond or end up saying they'll go then don't last second? ESPECIALLY because I will down the line do more fun things and invite the same people again and again and they'll only come out once and a while.

It's really hard with family like cousins etc as I dont' want to cut their LAME and often lazy people out of my life, because they're family.

But I do get sick of putting in the effort to try to keep people together though they are often POS who can't even show up once and a while, or even, sometimes don't even respond by phone. WTF is wrong with people that they can't even respond to family through a text, of course also friends and other people also are lazy AF and not commited to ANYTHING in life it seems not even friends of family although they BS and say they are. FRUSTRATING AF

[bededazzle]

well, i don’t think you necessarily have to let go of being annoyed. just don’t let the narrative continue in your head or poison you with resentment. you could also have a conversation with these people.

[hardboiledink]

Yeah, but it's hard to have a real conversation where I want to tell them what losers they are, and part of that reason is because they simply don't show up for themselves or others so they haven't accomplished or done $HIT with their live and are status quo. And I don't like being an undedicated, unliving, POS waste of time and space. So yeah it would be hard to not be brutally honest on their dumbasses

[bededazzle]

i can understand your frustration and anger. being flaky isn’ta good thing. however, it seems like the anger is consuming you, and the only person who this hurts is you. maybe you should get a little space from these people and process your anger. once you’ve let it go, perhaps you could have a conversation if you wanted to. these people might not realize how much they are hurting you. remember: “resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die”

[hardboiledink]

Yes is it frustratingly angering, thanks that's a great quote by Mandela. I can't be bitter, just make space and concentrate cool people who do show up and value me VS the idiots who are flaky and don't have their trash lives together or don't value me enough to respect all the events and things I plan and include them in

[bededazzle]

i wish you good luck in moving in this direction

[hardboiledink]

thank you