Is the approval of others important to you?

Question

Do you care about what others think of you?  I personally do 😅 but I'm working on it. Wbu? 🖤

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

People always say that you shouldn't care what others think, but I don't think that there's many people in the planet that don't care at all about what others think. It's human nature. We're social creatures. If you didn't care at all it would be like a form of enlightenment. You would rarely ever get angry with others and you wouldn't care how your appearance looks when going out for any event. I honestly believe that people that say they don't care what others think are delusional and are just trying to sound cool and mature haha. I'm 30 years old and have always been extremely introspective and trying to better my personality throughout my life and this is one thing I definitely will not be so arrogant to admit I can do.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

I'd say Yes. But up to a certain point. Similar to one of my opinions from one of your previous questions (the one about being competitive), if I feel that I could have a legitimate chance at competing, in this case, for the approval of others, then I'll be more willing to care. But if I feel that there is no use, then my mind will likely try & push it to the "back of it" to be deemed as something low importance. I say "try" because sometimes it's hard to do. For instance, with appearance. I'm super insecure about it. Always looking at mirrors when I pass by them to see if I still fit a certain standard.

devilish-cutie · Accepted Answer

Im very much my freakish self but I long to feel accepted by others. So Im myself and dont alter me, except ofc you have to adjust to people to some way, but I do feel need for acceptance and connection so I do care what others think but not to the point that I dont listen to myself and do things my way.

etsylo · Accepted Answer

yeah, I've always been a people pleaser and it hasn't been that long ago that i finally started saying no and speaking up.

the approval of others is still important to me but not as important as my bfs. maybe im really in love, but his opinion matters to me the most.

rosemilk · Answer

absolutely not. i stopped caring a long time ago lol

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

I really don’t care what people wear, I just know what type of apparel I would never wear. Baggy pants, shirts with profanity on it, sports apparel with another man’s name on the back! That always makes me cringe! Just buy a jersey, you don’t need someone else’s name on it! I can’t control what other people wear. You shouldn’t let it bother you either. You dress classy and that’s all that matters!

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes it depends. If it’s someone who is important in my life than yes to a point. But most people, no. I’ve lived a life that most haven’t, so for them to tell me about life or my experiences doesn’t hold water. Once I got it in my head that no one else is coming to rescue me, it’s just me, that’s when things got better. I’ve left a lot of pigeons behind to be able to fly w the eagles. You can’t always make everyone happy. In the end it’s your life, do what makes you happy. You don’t want to be lying on your death bed w all this “should haves.” Don’t live in regret”-Bubble Boy.

MrPickles13 · Answer

It's a big issue for me. I would like approval of others as well I guess to me as I can't feel good about myself having others approve of me would help. Sadly it's not much the case. I think it would help my self worth as well as I don't have any of that.

But well I'm not someone who does get much approval I don't think at least.

NathanDavis · Answer

I do care about what others think and perceive of me yes, to a very basic, social level... but then no, no more than that...

as in... those who really and actually know more about and know better about me are an actual part of my life (in person or online too) and they will have a more accurate idea of all about me, good things and not so good things...

as for approval, not really lmao... I've never been the most "conventional" person in most ways, so...

jcampbell115 · Answer

Yeah, I'm a people pleaser, so even if I don't want to do something myself, I'm always trying to think "is this something I should do because they want it, even if I don't?". It's also something that I worry about in my appearance 😔

Kaneki05 · Answer

I mean one can say no. But we all prefer to gain approval of our thoughts than be rejected.
Making opinions on here hoping people agree, arguing with others it's all done for validation of our thoughts to say it's not would be lying.
So yeah I care but it won't stop me just expressing my views to someone who thinks I am wrong.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, most people do, unless they're some sociopath.. It's just human nature.. Some of us let it consume us though.. Approval or disapproval can make or break us if we allow ourselves to put too much stock in how people view us, or even might view us.

aceleon · Answer

not really, but i love attention and no one can bad mouth me if they want teeths in that mouths.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I care about what I think about myself first and foremost. Then second, I consider what others think about me and how they perceive me.

strateguy632 · Answer

In general no, i don't expect validation and often hide my contributions unless situation pushed me.

But i do feel good when i see MANY "askers liked my answer."

It is real 🙂 in contrast to bots who gave mho... to bad answers to my questions and of other questions.

elaphe · Answer

I depends on the person. If it is a loved one or a person in authority, I tend to value their opinion more than some random person. I never believed in peer pressure as a kid because I figured a person who liked you would like you regardless of doing something stupid.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Not really, which is why I’m the one my mom has to constantly monitor around my combative grandma because I’m more than happy to start a fight with her on Christmas over me having a hair color she doesn’t approve of lol

sawno · Answer

Depends on the role I am in, but I still do my own thing and am my own person.
On a website like this I genuinely don't care, in a community manager role its a bit more important but I still act like myself and give my honest opinions.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't care much about the approval of strangers. But the opinion of my inner circle is important for me. So I at least want to know their opinion and perspective. I don't have to agree but more we know, the better is decision we make.

TenderFantasy · Answer

I guess it would depend on the type of relationship I want with them or have with them (boss, spouse, friend, best friend, child, mom and dad, sibling, etc.) but other than that, I'm getting better at not really caring.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Only people I care about or I'm interested in, everyone else's opinions are worthless to me.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah I could care less about what others think of me. I only care about what I think about myself. My self worth is most important

Unit1 · Answer

Puh-lease! The more haters the better kick ass.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

It is nice, but as I have found out over the years not really required. You have to make yourself happy first.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

Yeah it still does bother me if I'm honest. But I'm getting better at not letting it bother me.

Anonymous · Answer

From others, no. But from you, of course. You're approval, and love is what I live for.

Still-alive · Answer

Only the ones i have a very close relationship with like my family.

I would care only slightly by select people outside of that circle because i know they're smart and can give me the truth if i needed to ask them for it.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No, it’s never been. That’s why I’m confident because I’ve never been anyone’s cup of tea.

cherriibly · Answer

Yes I care and I'm still working for it, like you🥺

nawtee_me · Answer

Yes and no…. I really don’t care if someone likes or dislikes me. Or if they agree or disagree with anything I have said or done. But, now and then it is nice to know that someone noticed my efforts….

Nikki1989 · Answer

I like to be considered good at my job. The rest is not important.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't need approval from no one cause i know myself very well but i listen to everyone and if i find something good in what they are saying to me than i'll fix myself and be thankfull...

AydenHazor · Answer

I care more than I should what others think of me, but I'm working on not letting it show, in hopes of the outward appearance eventually becoming the inward reality.

Bricealan · Answer

No, that can be really self destructive. What if you needed the approval of everyone on GAG?

Al_Musafir · Answer

No, only my family's approval matters to me.

BLP11520 · Answer

That all depends upon what we’re talking about usually no, but sometimes yes.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

There's a few people that this matters to me. I think it's human nature to want approval to a degree.

DJB72 · Answer

Who I am and what I do/say is between me and God. If I offend you buy a helmet.

loveslongnails · Answer

Only to the extent that they're important to me, do I care about what they think about me.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Not even a little. I care what *I* think and what my wife thinks.

scooogy · Answer

I don't care 🤷‍♂️ i mean if that's okay for you 👀

Z1pTD · Answer

Kinda? I don't know lol I kinda trained myself out of it

Matadorius · Answer

Only if she is my girlfriend. I would only listen to her. other than that not at all

TiaNour · Answer

Yeah probably only people I know, other people tho I don’t really care

dolemite58 · Answer

i did when i was younger but eventually you care less and less as you get older

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope I don't seek validation from people I don't even know

LiamJHayden · Answer

Clients, yes. People I love, yes. The rest of the world, only enough so that the psychos don't randomly off me.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, I’m a guy that doesn’t even go out in public much.

OnlyMeee · Answer

Not so much these days, don't like me, move on. I hope you like me enough to stick around lol

mandyfire98 · Answer

Depends on the actual person really

SonyaLB · Answer

I think so, to a certain extent. Ultimately it should be my final say though.

Fabiloso · Answer

Hard not to most times

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Not really. That’s part of my rugged charm. 🤔😉😂

Staximus · Answer

Only if they are my friends

Kelly6 · Answer

I don't care of others approval.

Whoswhohere · Answer

Only where its needed like at work

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

not really, no.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I think I wouldn't be single if I did lol😂

CubaPirate · Answer

TBH not really

Paris13 · Answer

I Do. xxoo

vicphilips · Answer

In generally No 😅😅😅

Anonymous · Answer

Nah lol. Only the people I love.

ColHathi · Answer

Very.

Ruenella_ · Answer

A little bit.

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