I'll say this: I think other people can actually point out things you didn't realize just like how my roommates were talking smack about me behind my back but I realized they were actually making solid points and it made me realize I was dealing with false narratives. I think it's important to try and see what people are saying first before you make a decision if those things are applicable or not. So basically, some people can say things that I actually care about and other people say things that don't even represent me at all, but at the end of the day I personally focus on doing my job and not about what other think about me since people are going to have different perceptions of me but if I let everyone's perceptions of how I should live my life affect me I would definitely be doing things that would not represent myself. That doesn't mean their input is not valuable though even though I don't care how they think about me even if they think about me in a positive manner since they have their own reasons for that whether they want to share them or not but I don't get too concerned with why people have a positive or negative image of me unless it's actually applicable and then I double check myself or I take their words into consideration.
I think the trouble is that regardless of your own disposition, one often must go further beyond it if they want to have something more. If you care then you must move beyond that to "mature" and so with those that do not care, they must move beyond it to find forgiveness or caring if they want to have more than they already do.
I think that is why the themes are like a refrain. We're always trying to power through our own inertia. If we don't care about others then we must value something more until some day we have others that we value more than that something that has always been with us.
You see, it's very difficult to speak on these things wisely without also sounding nearly like a fool. And one may find they dance between the two, too. So... a little of column A, and a little of column B. I wouldn't want to be so oblivious that I murder people on my way to buy groceries. Just so that I don't scare children is fine enough.
My daughter is 14. I have been working with her the past 2-3 years, helping her build her self esteem. walk with a straight back, walk like you own the street, even though I am a 5 ft. nothing I am also working with her to build her inner beauty. Be kind yet assertive. Work on what she wants in life. Set goals... etc. If you fuel your journey with oil her peoples opinions, you will soon run out of gas. if you listen to others opinion, you are their prisoner. something like that... read some positive quotes. Write down you positive attributes... you are a lovely young lady. Take care of your inner beauty. Eat healthy, excerise, smile more, make good friends who have your back.
As much as we might want people to like us or accept us. And as much as it might hurt sometimes when people don't or falsely label/judge us, at the end of the day it only really matters if you let it... All people won't like you all the time, so LOVE yourself ALL the time...Never be something/someone you're not to gain "others" acceptance or approval... Never let what others think of you become more important than what you think of yourself...
Nah I only actually care about what my family thinks of me and they've seen me at my worst and still love me. Everyone else doesn't matter to me so they can fuck off
Everyone knows the beat thing is to not care what others think about you, but even those that say they don't to prove to others they're not are lying through their teeth. Everyone cares what others think to an extent. We are species of confirmation. It's natural, so all you can do is try and keep a reign on it as much as possible.
@Sonorous Appreciate it man! But yikes I reread my opinion here and I typed really badly lol.
I'll retype it now, for you:
Everyone knows the BEST thing is to not care what others think of you, but even those that say they don't ARE JUST TRYING TO PROVE TO OTHERS THEY'RE MATURE, and are lying through their teeth. Everyone cares what others think to an extent. We are a species of confirmation. It's natural, so all you can do is try to keep a reign on it to the best of your ability.
No prob 😂 and nah don't worry! I don't view it as bad. With everything, there could be more things we could add.
Like for instance, someone could genuinely be under the impression that they don't care about what others think. But it comes from their lack of knowledge on the topic of the human brain. So they could have good intentions but be misguided.
But the general concept of how we do care more than we realize is what I fundamentally agree with. So I think it's a very good opinion! 🍻
I mean I do but I don't as long as I'm not rude or do something stupid I mean that's what I mean by I do but other than that no I don't because you find out might all the people that you think are watching you and that are judging you you're not going to be in your life for the rest of your life people come and go so what I'm saying is I do because I don't want to embarrass my kids are my parents but other than that I mean I don't care I'm a good person I am a well-rounded person I see things multiple different ways I'm not going to cause a scene it is somebody wants to judge me I say go for it but before you judge me make sure you know me
Straight up , people will lie on this poll possibly not intentionally BUT everybody cares what others think about them - What is important is how you react to these feelings - People will say "Be Yourself" and "Don't Care" - I will be a little softer and say "Be as close to yourself as possible" if it makes you feel good, the world a better place for yourself and others - Learn to love who you are and the positive effect you have on the world - All the cliches have a ring of truth , it is better to have a few close friends than be popular with a hundred acquaintances, have a thousand social media followers - Those close friends are the ones who know and love you , who will stay with you whatever happens
well I can't say I completely don't care I group people into a couple of different categories the first are people whom I've chosen to be in my life and an important way and in doing so I've chosen to care what they think of me in their opinion matters which is why I go to them for advice and consider them to be close confidence and friends of mine then there are the people who I have to get really think those people are your boss you are in laws your professor or other people of that nature and then lastly there is everyone elseoh I couldn't care less what they think of me I don't need the approval or pass in the back from strangers in order to have volume myself or no who I am and what I am worth
To an extent. I do a little bit because I use it as a measuring rod for how I am being perceived and behaving, as it is hard to know one's true self from an inside view. However, 99% of people get me wrong and assume I am just another average slob, bum, and loser (likely, just as they are) and always assume the worst of me, so I don't hold their words in high regard.
It's more along the lines of, I only listen to people if I'm doing something REALLY bad. For most things though, people always judge me inaccurately and assume the worst of me, based on how I look.
Of course somewhat. Only edgy kids and fools lying to themselves say they don't because they think it's somehow weak to care about your reputation, it's dumb not to if you want any kind of positive relationships with people. It's normal and healthy to care about your reputation, we are social creatures and we naturally want to be liked or at least not hated by everyone. You have to be totally anti-social to really not care if everyone hates you and thinks you are a moron. Even psycho- and sociopaths care what others think of them. You need people to trust you in order to manipulate them.
It's only unhealthy if it's something petty about your looks and cowardly if you're pretending to be someone you're not just to please others. You'll naturally lose the unhealthy ones as you get older and I don't think there's much you can do to speed up that process. It's natural to care too much when you are younger.
yes because shame is sometimes a good indicator of right and wrong. i don't want to be known as a cheater, or a loser, fat or lazy whore. these are all straight that are bad. if I didn't care about these traits sure it wouldn't affect me mentally but it would possibly affect me physically and socially.
the second reason why I care because of envy and hate. if I'm doing too well I gotta watch out for people who want my spot or possession or my life. I'm also black I know a lot people like black people but I know a lot people hate and fear I have to take that in consideration when dealing with people.
the people who say I don't care usually get sloppy in life.
Both it depends what it is about. If people for example dont like what you wear or how you look there is no reason to care about that. However there is one person close to me that never think about what people say to her. Even though she is rude, annoying and egoistic all the time and people tell her about it she just doesn't care, even when it is her children telling her. I think thats a big problem too. So i think a balance between thinking about what people say or not is important. So you can filter out all nonsense coments you get but also listen to people who might notice things about you that you might not notice yourself.
I think people should have a general awareness. Social convention and common courtesy should be respected, especially if someone wants to have friends or good networks. But they still ought to be their own person and have a certain level of confidence about it.
Yes, of course. What's the alternative, not being liked? You're best friends obviously like you. You may hang out with certain cliques in school because you fit in. Later in life, I found that I could excel and accomplish things I didn't know I was capable of when people admired me and assumed that I would be capable. I'm also a musician, and one of the greatest feelings is having people go nuts when I perform. I love it when they come up later and say how much they enjoyed it.
No not really. Only my family and close friends. People can be cruel. Only people that really know you should be able to judge you and comment on your behaviour
I don't think there is a person on earth who doesn't care about what other people think of them. But the problems happen when you let those others to control your life. It's good to care because a lot of times you can learn something from the things other people think. But it's not good to let others rule your life and make you second guess everything you think and do. You should strive for a healthy balance between listening to what others think and going your own way.
When you say others no I don't really care because they really don't know me, but for those who I work with, friends, acquaintances and family yes I do care deeply what they think of me.
Of course. Whether people admit it or not, everyone cares what other people think of them to some degree. How we appear to other people makes a difference.
i mean sure. i don't see anything wrong with that, cause after all we live in a society where we somewhat always depend on the benevolence of the people around us. nobody lives just for themself. but there's a bunch of other priorities above social acceptance in a particular situation for me.
It really depends who it’s coming from, if it’s from someone I care about yes I do. If it’s someone I don’t care about then I don’t give a single crap.
Everyone does to an extent which is important in some cases because you don’t want to be a sociopath with no empathy and hurt others to get what you want. But at the same time don’t let negative people stop you from doing what makes you happy.
Never did, I don't plan to begin anytime soon. After all, what would worrying about others' opinion bring to my table? At least for what regards looks and personality, I'm positive absolutely nothing.
If it is a male friend, they than not really, if it a friend that is a girl I care a little bit, if it’s my girlfriend I care a lot. If it is a person I do not know I care, but not enough for their opinion to hurt me.
Idgaf. You get what you get and you don’t get upset.
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Yes and no. I'd like to care what you all think but you are all so f***Ed in the head. It's virtually impossible for me to respect any of your opinions anymore. You think getting laid and swaG is the end all be all of human existence. I doubt most of you even understand what it means to care for anybody but yourself.
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Not any more.
Before I payed a lot attention to it, but now I just had enough of it.
There always will be some one who do not like me. I just know, that it is impossible to please everyone.
And in case anyone things bad about me - F**k you and horse you riding on.
Only at work, for some reason. At home and outside of work I generally don't care and can relax.
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Sort of. What really bothers me is knowing people are thinking something and not telling me. But don't care so much about the opinion specifically lol.
Fortunately, no. If someone thinks highly of me, that's great and I appreciate it. If not, oh well. However, there are a few select exceptions: my girlfriend, my parents and my sister.
There has to be balance here. If you care too much you end up doing things to please everybody but yourself. If you care too little you end up being a weirdo or a prick.
Someone commented that everybody does, unless they are antisocial. I guess I'm antisocial then. I only care about what my girlfriend thinks of me. Everyone else's opinion has very litttle value.
I do care too much, so much that it hurts my self-esteem and makes me upset. i think everyone does care for a degree what someone thinks of them it is only human to feel that way.
I don't care about what people think of me, I have my Senior picture for my profile picture if people like it that's all matters if not well that's on them LMAO (( Hugs ))
No, only exception would be a girlfriend, and only to the extent that she loves me. Outside of that other people's opinions about me are of no value to me.
To some extent only. Where I do care: is my 'reputation' of posing no danger to others, and being reasonably integrated. Where I don't: all these ''not-your-business'' things.
I only care what my coworkers think about me, my S/O, his friends, my family, and people near me when I'm out in public or at a store... I don't ever want to look like I'm a shoplifter or anything
Depends on whose opinion it is and what it's about. If it's works-related or the other person knows what the hell they are talking about then it's a good idea to care.
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