Is it bad to sometimes be too forgiving towards others that never apologized?

[Anonymous]

Even since my early 20's, I've been friends with some people that were jerks in their early teens. Till this day we've never spoken about the incidents. They never apologized and I never demanded an apology either. They all seemed to talk about all the great times and somehow have no memory of any negative ones. I'm the only one that remembers it, lol.

They greeted me as a friend and well I went along with it. I've been invited to some parties and I guess moving on is part of life. I just feel like talking the person in the present.

I know not everyone reacts like me. What do you think? Is it bad to be that forgiving if they never apologized and likely never will?

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I will only mention the incidents if any of them decides to open up about that topic and asks me about it... then ok.

[Anonymous]

Your post makes a lot of sense. I find myself being too forgiving too

[Asker]

Thank you. I guess I don't see the point in holding grudges from your school years, when everyone is immature back then nor being freaky about getting an apology.
I've seen the movie ''You Again 2010'' and I really thought the victim overdid it with demanding an apology. Instead of having an interesting conversation with the now grown woman, she was stuck at how she got picked on in HS.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know sometimes it's warranted tho

[Asker]

Perhaps but what type of apology is it if you really had to demand it and insist on it?

[Opinion Owner]

It's a forced one. But if people want to be in my face they need to apologize or not let the door hit them where it hurts

[Opinion Owner]

And apologies are kind of dumb if it's forced. I'm never looking for an apology say it with your chest next time

[Asker]

Then thinking you ''deserved a real apology'' sounds kind of entitled there. No one really deserves an apology. The person apologizing, would do it on their own free will.

[Asker]

Exactly. To me a forced, insincere apology I had to demand is actually worse than getting no apology. An forced, insincere one has two offenses... one for the initial offense they committed and another for lying about being sorry.

[Opinion Owner]

But whose to say theirs was forced. It's forced when the person says say sorry to me but I think if someone says sorry right away they sort of mean it

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, forgiveness is good for the soul.

[Asker]

True. I just don't see the point of holding eternal grudges nor going freaky about getting an apology because you think you're entitled for a ''real apology'' like in the movie You Again 2010. Have you seen that movie? I don't agree with the bullied victim either. She kept demanding for an apology and in the end gets a fake, forced one.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree, and its not good for your soul either.