Is it ok not to forgive someone that only apologized if I'm doing better than her?

[Anonymous]

She was part of the reason why I moved to another more stricter school after 10th grade.

I'm going to reply back to inform her not to ever contact me and that nope, I refuse to accept her ''apology''. The reason for this is for two reasons:

- She took too long to apologize. I've already moved on and I'm at a point where I don't need more friends. I already have my group of friends and sometimes meet new people. Why even bother by now?

- In her apology, she was congratulating me for being successful at first and placed too much emphasize on that. I'm not extraordinary. I'm not a normal person like everyone. Then suddenly it's an ''omg I'm so sorry, blah, blah, blah''. This to me read as an ''I'm sorry, I didn't know you would be successful'' type of apology. She didn't search for me back when I was still struggling. What if I would've still been struggling and super poor? I doubt she would've apologized. This makes me think people like her are still rotten people that still think badly of others below them.

Overall I found her apology too late and insincere. Is it ok to refuse an apology?

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**I'm a normal person like everyone.

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I think apologies when they don't take too long and is for the right reasons. It would be a difference if she had searched for me right after finishing HS, while I was still struggling and apologized (regardless if I'm above her in status or not)... then yes I would have accepted it.

[Guy13]

NOooo. Do non t be vindictive.-Vengeance is of the Lord. 'Thank you for reaching out to me... you are very kind. Things are good but in my current Circumstance I am unable to "friend etc". " What's wrong with that? If your heart is so hard that does not resonate then... don't do it. I am not an Expert !!

[Asker]

I don't like late, insincere apologies. I find that a lot worse than getting no apologies.

[Asker]

She's only sorry because I'm at a higher position than her and trying to get something out of me, not because of how she treated me. Types like her still have it in them to bully others beneath them. They don't change.

[Guy13]

So, you know her heart. And you want to behave as she would sensing and smelling Vulnerability. Pot calling the Kettle black." You are her...

[Asker]

No I would just be calling her out for what she is, a bully that will never change. I know when someone really change for the better vs someone just apologizing out of self interest.

[Guy13]

That's what you are being in a position of Power.. Your reflection is her... Why don't you stop and talk to God. You can WTF, why am I so angry and dead knowing what it FEELS like to be subject to bullying.

[Asker]

I don't speak to fictitious, invisible people.

[Guy13]

Alright, Best in your endeavors.