What 's Something you Will No Longer Make an Effort in Doing With a Family Member or Even a Friend?

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Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

I know I'll no longer bother with my narcissistic aunt and her psycho cousin. They put me in such a dangerous situation, I had to leave abruptly. They took most of my belongings and sold them. I had to start over again. Now I live in a drug infested, cockroach infested building. I live in poverty, but I still feel safer here, compared to the house with my aunt, lol. And this is an apartment building where if you don't lock your door, someone would definitely come in. The police are in this building every single day.

Family members who are narcissists don't care about you or your feelings. They only care about expressing their opinions and walking all over you in the process. They have the knack for saying something ignorant and rude to you, just to see how you will respond. Then when you do, they will hold it against you forever!

It sucks that you have to accept the fact that these people will never change, but trust me, ignoring them and leaving them by themselves is the best punishment for them. There's an old saying about narcissists, I forget how it goes, but it's something like this... "A narcissist will never go to hell because they already live in their own hell and will live there forever."

They are never happy and never will be!

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

Take your younger sister to Denny’s and stuff her face full of French toast and she’ll be happy. Just pay for her

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I only did that with my one college friend who became mentally ill after I had my new borns… she was way too mentally unstable to be around.
other than that… I keep a good relationship with all my close friends and family members. As well as create harmonies dynamic fir the good of us all.. like my children and my hubby… all these are skills one must learn to be strong and kind towards the self and others.
I disagree with that quote.

when questions like this, regards to relationships…it’s two to create healthy or unhealthy …

apologizing for no reason doesn’t connect well from within and others…what is the deep meaning of an apology?

so work on the self… that will help with building relationships with friends, families and future partners.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

(for one particular friend) sending messages. i usually get left on read. i would feel awful if i did that to a friend. I don't know how she does it...

Billlewis · Answer

Staying in touch with my parents, other than for their birthdays, Christmas, etc.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

I will never be friends again with this girl who came into our yard grabbed my little brother by his hair and dragged him across the the dirt. She has apologized but I will never be friends with her again!! I heard my brother screaming and crying and came out and saw him being dragged by his hair I grabbed her hair and asked how she liked it? She said she did it because she doesn't like little boys. How could I ever be friends with her again? I'm protective of my little brother and sister, if anyone ever hurts either of them we are done!!

imtiaz45 · Answer

in human interactions, people may decide to refrain from efforts that consistently go unappreciated or reciprocated in their relationships. This could include repeatedly trying to please someone who doesn't value their efforts or investing time in one-sided relationships. Setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing self-care is crucial, and individuals may decide to redirect their energy towards relationships that are more mutually supportive and fulfilling. Communication and understanding each other's needs play vital roles in maintaining meaningful connections.

Lynx122 · Answer

With my dad and my sister I pretty much make no efforts any more but that's based on their behavior and my wellbeing. With my mom and people in general I think I'm steadily increasing my effort. I was not able to be very giving with people for most of my life because I'm autistic and I was overwhelmed by life. I was warm to other people in person but I often didn't keep up with things you're supposed to do. The unspoken expectations stressed me out and I didn't have the capacity to deal with that stuff so I just tried to avoid it. So now I'm trying to be a good son :) When I was in India I brought back so many gifts for her and I think she's really happy :)

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Destination weddings. I already went through some destination weddings for all my favorite family members and my closest friend. The rest need to having weddings in a convenient location if I'm to show up. I don't like the remaining ones enough to go through more of those.

nawtee_me · Answer

See now you have gone and done it. You have pushed me to the point where I can no longer procrastinate. With this post I have been convicted and I have to make a change…. I will no longer make an effort to not make an effort. In fact I will make an effort to make an effort so that an effort will be made. I feel so much better now…. A change is coming….

OlderAndWiser · Answer

As your life is coming to a close, will you look back and feel proud of how you handled yourself, or will you look back and have regrets? THAT is the question.

lungcapacitor · Answer

Making sure I have a good relationship with my parents. They care to put in no effort at all in trying to have a good relationship with me so I just don’t care at this point.

Massageman · Answer

Trying to re-develop ties with a bro-in-law. If you don't believe exACTly as he does, you are NOthing. We've tried and it's just like he's reading from a script (I wouldn't put it past him to do just that). Scene closed, fade to black.

devilish-cutie · Answer

Thinking first about them and not myself, its hard for me as I see their needs better than my own

Sharkstealth · Answer

My oldest sister and I fell apart because her oldest son is a drug addict and has mental health issues. She was mad at me and was saying that I need to raise him and let him live at my house for free. He doesn't have a job and is 27.

NathanDavis · Answer

I live for them (and their reciprocation) that won't change...

RHK36 · Answer

Anything. I match energy and effort. All relationships only work if both parties care and try. So if I feel like someone is being phony or disingenuous I'm cutting them off from my time and energy.

worldscolide · Answer

Acknowledged my mother's existence. There is a story that I have told on here repeatedly. I haven't spoken to her since I was 16.

E_Bogar · Answer

Stay in touch often. Some I do stay in touch with more than others like my mom, kids, a couple of cousins, and girlfriend. Some I've just grown apart from over the years. It's nice to see them when I do, but there is little contact now.

laly520 · Answer

keeping em close if they aren't willing to do so then no need to push

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I don't want to cease spreading good karma because I'm not receiving any myself.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Always  be the one to initiate conversation and/or make plans to hang out.

Carly2005 · Answer

To reach out to make plans I call them. But they never call me. They seem for to wait for me to do so.

Cervi · Answer

Does someone understand the meaning of these message from a girl after we had dinner together? Hi. I had a fun time on Saturday. It could be fun if you are still down.

Likes2drive · Answer

Mailing Christmas cards to people I don’t get any from

msc545 · Answer

Skiing -I got hurt too badly to ever do this again.

IloveWinters · Answer

I am gonna take stand for my beliefs and the truths I feel inside this year

Anonymous · Answer

Talking to ugly guys. I will no longer talk to ugly guys.

exitseven · Answer

I don't send Christmas cards anymore

dreamstar72 · Answer

Saying “helping and saying yes”

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Talking to my sibling.

Mark987 · Answer

Stop helping someone that wouldn't return the favour. I have done that way too many times.. I stopped doing it now.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Staying in contact with them.

OtterMan68 · Answer

finding out why they unfriended me

CubaPirate · Answer

Financial support

slatyb · Answer

Pretending.

DJB72 · Answer

Compromise

JHAYES317 · Answer

Book expensive stuff…they often bail last minute.

getwiththepg · Answer

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