Why did he give me hickeys?

[Anonymous]

I went over to my friends with benefits's house, and he was kind of rude to me, but I didn't really know why. Every time I tried to talk to him, he was very dismissive. He started asking me a lot of questions about where I had been and who I was with. A few days ago, I was hanging out with a guy friend and a girl friend, and he saw that. Additionally, I had to cancel our meet-up the first time. He had never given me hickeys before, and it was definitely done on purpose. I'm not sure if he was jealous or if this is some sort of control thing.

[rosemilk]

if he was being rude, i don't know how you let him anywhere near you. you should stand up for yourself more. don't take that kind of behavior. it's toxic. he did these things because he's toxic and controlling and you are allowing it.

[Asker]

I didn’t think he was gonna be rude towards me until I got into his house. I didn’t want to up and leave because I felt like he would’ve been even more upset.

[SueShe]

Unless you have a rash of some kind, it looks as if those traces are possibly hickeys.

You should actually know if the placed his lips on those spots and if he applied succion to give those to you.

Except for the one on the neck, they are not visible if you dress conservatively and without showing cleavage, so that should solve your problem.

[SueShe]

Sorry, I forgot to answer as to why he would have given you a hickey.

I don't know why he would be jealous since he is only fornicating with you and nothing more. Perhaps that he was simply upset that you cancelled your meet-up. However, it could also be that he is developing feelings for you and you did not catch the signs.

Whatever it is, ensure that you make it clear to him that you will not tolerate this kind of behavior from him.

[Asker]

Yes he did it purposely. He never really liked me hanging out with my friends before. But, when he saw me with a guy friend that’s when he left them

[Wiredone]

He is assuming that you were with someone and he was marking you as his property. He wants everyone to know that you are his

[laly520]

just one side note
don't let him control u or ur life choices
where u were or with whom u been with is none of his business

[Asker]

He gets mad when I hang out with my friends. I’m not sure why he does this though. I told him I wanted something casual. He wasn’t really too sure but he went with it. He never said yes or no to it he told me “it’s whatever i want.”

[laly520]

toxicity, he is toxic

[Luckycharms12]

Why not

[Luckycharms12]

Leave his mark

[Asker]

Because I’m not his girlfriend

[Luckycharms12]

It's showing people you are taken his into you