I'm a 19-year-old girl and I just started university. My family doesn't show any interest in anything I do. I always end up having to do all the chores even though I have a very busy schedule compared to others. And if I dare not do them, I get scolded. My sister openly hates me (she has borderline so my mom told me it's because of her illness). Because of that, I don't have the right to join any family activities or mealtimes when my sister participates. I cook for myself and eat alone, even though the rest of my family eats together and laughs together. They don't even mind that I'm not there. My brother is the only one who sees that I'm not treated rightfully and he talks with me about it. My mom and my sister always talk behind my back (I have this information because my brother tells me). They say that I never do anything around the house, that I'm a bitch, that I'm disrespectful, etc.
I have a boyfriend and I've been together with him for 2 years+. At the beginning, my family was talking trash about him in my face. He is a very sweet boy and didn't do anything deserving that kind of treatment. At that moment, I lost my cool and told them that: I really don't like it when they talk badly about him, and that if they continue I won't visit them often once I move out. I recently learned that my mom and my sister still talk badly about him stating that he is mean and disrespectful. My family never really tried getting to know him and didn't even give him a chance to show them who he is. I feel now really disrespected, because my family didn't respect my demand, so I talked to my mom about it, and she denied it, then admitted to it and then she trash talked about him in my face. My family has never really been there for me, and my boyfriend has really shown me what it feels like to be loved, so I really don't like people trash talking about him. It's okay that my family talks badly about me, but I can't stand it when anyone talks badly about my boyfriend.
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Some people get good families, some don't. Save up and move out, get away from all the toxic bullshite and never look back. You'll be happier in the long run.
No it's not right that they talk trash about you! You sound like a sweet girl. I don't like how your family is treating you either. Thank God you have your brother with you and your boyfriend. So you can't participate in family dinners because you're sister doesn't like you? That's not your problem! I wish I could give you a hug girl.
It seems like you need to get away from them as soon as it's feasible.