How do I deal with a relative who keeps pressuring me for her to visit me from another country?

[Anonymous]

She keeps asking when she can come I’ve told her I couldn’t do April but she will suggest another date I finding it really awkward. I’m already have a lot of plans already for this year

[Sameone]

Just told her you can't come?

Where is problem

But don't forget if she want to visit you this mean she miss you!
So if you can't for layover tell her come in weekends or for 3 days only

[Asker]

I don’t really enjoy spending time with her and I’ve only met in person 3 times

[Sameone]

Ohhh
So tell her truth :

My dear i want you to know I don't like you and i don't want you to meet you or spend time with you
Whit all my respect to you
Have good life

Easy. Why you keep laying...

[Asker]

My partner may be having a kidney donation surgery during her time anyway so I doubt I’ll be able to do any trips this year taking time off work

[laly520]

talk to her about it

[Asker]

It’s going to be awkward she will not take it well I’m so glad she can see her family on her own side tho so it’s not as bad

[Danny_dan92]

Communicate. Tell her why it’s a no

[Asker]

Sadly she’s gone ahead and booked it she does have other members on her side of the family but I’m gonna have to tell her soon I won’t be able to meet up

[Danny_dan92]

There you go

[Asker]

Breaking the news is always awkward I will text her tho

[slatyb]

How close are you?

[Asker]

No not really only met in person 3 times and she lived in another country all her life I met her when I was like 24 years old and she’s 15 years older than me luckily she has other members she can see instead on her side of the family