Someone once said this, and meant it. They felt kids were a biological imperative and if someone who was capable just "chose out of the air" not to have kids, then they were clearly being selfish. Do you agree with that?
Ultimately yes I do but I believe it's out of naivety more than being selfish. I see a lot of people in these comments referencing all the reasons why it's harder to have a kid now, these excuses are exactly why birth rates are dropping so rapidly in most countries.
Women would rather compete in the job market to become a CEO and create their own "utopia" for themselves then do the more beneficial and natural yet also difficult choice of having a family. In almost every large successful civilization that has collapsed the masculinizing of women and dropping of birth rates has taken place.
By saying why bring a child into this crazy world instead of contributing to creating a better one and teaching your children what's right and wrong, you're slowly accepting what society is in the most negative way possible. It perpetuates the cycle. This exact thing happened in Rome in a time of masculine women, low birth rates happened, sexual degeneracy, and insatiable decadence were at all time highs the cities and then the Goths invaded in hoards replacing them and it all eventually collapsed.
I know this is a bit dramatic but I'm surprised to see so many people saying no and disliking having children.
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No, I think that's far too simple of a viewpoint. Depending on someone's goals, interpretation can be spun both ways. It's similar to the topic of suicide & cowardice some people love to link together.
A good counter argument for this topic could be to say that having kids is a selfish thing. Most aren't planned & most will have somewhat toxic upbringings due to their parents not being wise or experienced enough to handle raising kids. And by not having kids, we'd be helping to reduce the amount of suffering in the world. Since suffering is inevitable with our life form, then it would always be a selfless thing to do.
Another counter argument could be that we're not a species that is about to go extinct. There's plenty of us out there fucking & accidentally making kids. It's more plausible that we'd destroy ourselves before we ever die out due to lack of propagation.
No.. If people choose not to have kids it's the opposite of selfish. If someone is coming to that decision thinking they would be a horrible parent, that is thoughtful for the future child. Same too if they are not happy with the way the world is.
Cost of living isn't getting better. A lot of people are having a hard time paying basic bills. There are going to be generations of kids who couldn't to go to college for higher education and will never be able to own their own homes at the rate the world is headed.
Stepping off point, but feel it's connected.. They are already mumbling about not having enough airline pilots (for one example) because schooling costs too much. And there is a cut off age limit and forced retirement. This is going to become a common theme.
So what starts as a basic "should I have kids" might become a bigger impact if more people lean this direction based on costs alone.
When I was in my 20's I remember meeting this young lady that had just got married. So back then it was natural to think about having kids next. She said she didn't want any. I remember saying to her "Don't you think that's being selfish"? I don't even know what made me say that. Probably because that's what people though back in those days.
I believe completely different now. Honestly, the way the world is so screwed up and scary I wish people wouldn't bring innocent babies into this world only for them to have to navigate this life for the next 80 or 90 years. That's a long time and life is more of a struggle more than ever anymore.
But people are going to do what they want. 🤷🏼āāļø
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Not at all. Better to not have kids and then regret it, than to have kids and regret it. All children deserve a parent but not all parents deserve children. Some people donāt have a want for kids, so why force it upon them? Why force that child to have uninterested parents?
No I donāt. I have autism and numerous mental health issues running in my family line and not only could I not afford to raise children, Iām also not mentally well enough (severe depression, somewhat treatment resistant); that Iām on the pension for. I donāt want to bring children that I canāt provide stability for into the world. I think thatās irresponsible and selfish. Thereās a reasonable risk of having severely disabled kids. Which would destroy my life and that of my partner. If I were to marry. I have sensible reasons for choosing not to have kids, as much as I love them. There are others faced by the same or similar dilemmas. Itās peopleās bodies, their right to choose.
Yes!
Your ancestors for billions of years worked, and sacrificed carrying forth the torch of life just to make your life possible.
For anyone to simply choose to abandon that responsibility to carry forth the touch of life for future generations in favor of simply living for themselves alone is supremely selfish!
You were given the touch of life to pass it on so that someone else might have the same chance you did. Instead you betrayed that deal and stole all your posterity future just to maybe live a little better yourself.I've been hearing that my whole life and it's bullshit. LOL I knew when I was 15 years old I'd never want kids. The "biological imperative" argument is a fallacy. The Earth's population is still growing, even if there are some down years.
I think it's a great decision, and a very UNselfish one, to recognize that you don't want that kind of responsibility. There are way too many people who should NOT be parents but are, compared to the relatively small number of childless couples. Civilization as we know it is not collapsing because there's a 1 or 2% spike in childless couples. LOL
Not at all. In fact, Iām one of those people who donāt want kids. I donāt want the responsibility. I donāt want to be a mom for the rest of my life. I donāt want to put my body through all that pregnancy stuff. And Iām not mentally stable enough to raise a child, let alone babysit one.
If anyone wants kids, I give them my upmost respect.
I rather be honest than have kids I never wanted. To me, thatās cruel. Thereās a whole bunch of people who have kids and are absolutely shit parents. A lot of people donāt deserve kids.never, you are not selfish for not wanting kids! Itās your body and you donāt owe anyone an explanation as to why you donāt want kids.
this is your freaking life you have every right to life it as you please thatās why you have free will. Imagine if the tables were turned and people who donāt want kids told people who wants kids they are selfish for having kids? It would be early war 50!
The double standard are baffling 😩 stop calling people selfish for not having kids! Go enjoy your children and life and stop attacking childless people for no reason! Itās so upsetting man you too are selfish 🫵 for calling people who donāt want kids selfish how about that? 😠
No, depends on where you life and if you can provide a good future for the child. Take china for example, children are born into what is effectively slavery there. In the west I see us move in the same direction, and the future I imagine we are heading towards I would not want to life, so I don't consider it bad or selfish to withhold from children until there are signs of a better future.
no if someone isn't ready for a kid then how the fuck would it be selfish to have one. not everyone are meant to be parents.
atm i don't want kids bc i don't wanna fuck them up. if someone just doesn't want the responsibility then it's good they don't wanna kids. too many parents are like thatWell, I have a friend who doesn't want kids and they have good reasons for it. They didn't grow up well at all and they just want a different life than with kids. Though, if they didn't have a good reason, and they maybe just "don't wanna" then I'd understand how you could view that as selfish. I think everyone should experience having children. It can be an amazing thing and if you have the opportunity you should take it. Children are a blessing from God. Though, God says you don't have to get married or have children. You can stay single and child free if you really choose too. Though I wouldn't just do it to do it. You should have good reasoning as to why you want to not have kids. Past experience, trama, etc.
no... they are wise... why hurt a living being by bringing it to this world when they don't want it? Check kids in orphanages and emergency stations... see what is the fate of children not really wanted or having immature parents
No, people who do not want kids would not be good parents, and that is important. Kids deserved to have good parents. People who decide not to have kids generally know they would be poor parents, and it's good that they then choose to not have kids.
As someone who doesn't want kids and is able to have them, yes, i'm being selfish, but I'm a hedonist, so thats a good thing in my opinion.
Do what you want in life, otherwise there's no point to doing anything.
Trying to make being selfish seem bad is anti-fun and anti-self preservation.
I'm not having any kids, and I don't care if that bothers some people, they can cope. 🤷🏻How am I selfish because I donāt want to have kids and I want my tubes tied?
I think me not having kids is one of the most selfless things I could ever do.. because Iām acknowledging that Iām not ready to have a child and I canāt give a child what it needs emotionallyā¦ no child I bring into the world deserves the unhealed version of meā¦. But I really just donāt want kids.I don't believe that. If someone is not mentally or financially prepared to have kids its better that they don't. Otherwise that kid is going to be a mess and the cycle repeats.
Financial preparation aside, mental preparation is critical. I see too many people emotionally crippled by their own kids and I just think why... why did you even bother.No, I do not think it is selfish. I don't want to have children for various reasons. One of those reasons is I don't want to pass tourettes syndrome down to the next generation in my family. I want it to end with me. Also, I can't afford children even if I wanted them. I'd end up jailed for being unable to pay child support. I refuse to destroy my own life in order to have children.
I donāt understand how anyone can see it as selfish if one chooses not to have kids, regardless of whether they are capable of having them.
Some people are truly just not cut out to be parents and don't have that nurturing nature that kids need.
Even if it was "out of thin air" that someone decides not to have kids, that still wouldn't be selfish. If you don't want kids, that alone will negatively effect your kids. That alone is a good enough reason not to have kids.
I think if you don't want kids, it means you are not equipped to have them because once you are biologically and spiritually mature enough to be a parent, you will have a craving to be a parent.
No the world is already overpopulated. If people don't want to have kids they shouldn't have to, it's not selfish. Just like it's not selfish for people not to want to work in a certain field. The fact is that maybe they have financial problems, health problems, are more work oriented, don't like kids, etc... there are many reasons and none of them make them selfish to not want to have kids.
What is selfish is having kids when you arenāt fit to have them. I am bipolar. There is no way l would want to risk passing that on to any children. Nor would l risk my bipolar disorder potentially causing harm to any children.
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