This weekend I have a family gathering but I realized that whenever I gather with my family I had to deal with my anxiety for weeks after I come back from there. I don't want to be around my family. How can I say no to family gatherings for a while? I think I need to unresolve my trauma before meeting them again.
Tell them exactly that.
"Sorry and all that goes with it, but I can't come to visit you. Well I can, but I don't intend on doing so, because it screws around with my mental health just by being around you"
That should do the trick! Simple.
Read some of James Reasoner's books, and you'll learn how valuable family is. It certainly made me reflect, more objectively, on how much my family has done for me, and made me love them so much more, and have great loyalty for them.
I'd fight the devil himself, if he threatened any of them, because they're my own flesh and blood. Nobody's family is perfect, and if you were abused by them, I understand and I'm sorry that happened to you.
But otherwise, they literally created you, they went through so much physical pain, and financial strain to see that you grow from a small baby, to a big and strong adult. Don't abandon them like that, please don't
just tell them you won't come. You don't have to explain yourself
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It sounds like you might be feeling overwhelmed or uncomfortable with the idea of a family gathering. If you're looking for a way to gracefully excuse yourself from such an event, consider a few options:
Honesty: Depending on your relationship with your family, being honest about your feelings might be the best approach. You can explain that you need some time for yourself, or that you are not feeling up to social gatherings at the moment.
Scheduling Conflicts: You can mention a prior commitment or an unavoidable task that conflicts with the timing of the gathering. This could be work-related, educational, or another personal commitment.
Offer Alternatives: If you feel that not attending at all would be too abrupt, you might suggest a shorter visit or propose another type of interaction that would be more comfortable for you, like a one-on-one meet-up at another time.
Health Concerns: Citing health concerns, whether they are physical or mental, is also a valid reason. This can include needing to rest due to fatigue, managing stress, or avoiding exposure to illness.
Gradual Reduction: If you want to reduce family interactions over time, you can start by shortening the duration of your visits gradually and spacing them out more.
If u need an excuse, say someone as work/school just informed they’ve got Covid and your feeling down… still Covid is so real that the slightest headache people would like to avoid you!
u Are you in treatment for mental health concerns?
Say you had something come up, or had a trip planned. Harder if they live near you I guess.
I wouldn’t bend the truth too much to avoid the family gathering. Truth is always the best.
Cook or bring a meal and lace it with laxatives then act like the food was just bad, and they won't ask you back
Why is a family gathering causing a anxieaty or trauma?
m dont go to it
u aren't forced to
I think I said this before don’t go.
Stay in your "room".
Just say you have work
Don’t go duh
By not going
don't go
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