Are human connections flimsy today?

[Lynx122]

I feel like so many connections are just made because of convenience (you live in the same place or you do the same activity together) and as soon as it's a bit more difficult they fall apart. I just moved from one place, where we lived together, to my own apartment. It's only 500 meters away from the old place but to many people I might aswell have died. There was this one person that I really wanted to stay in touch with even after I left. I thought I was gonna make progress and build up more social connections that I didn't see in my everyday life automatically. But now this person did something quite bad and they haven't apologized for it yet and I feel even more isolated now. I still have people from my work that I like and get along with well and once I settle in a bit at the new place I can do new activities and meet new people make new friends but right now it's a tough time for me socially.

In the past people were forced to have close bonds because they depended on each other to survive but now people don't really need each other that much. So the smaller annoying things that were overlooked in the past out of necessity become more of a big deal. People only want to know someone if it's convenient.

What do you think?

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[thegreenyogi]

I think nowadays it's best to face life with the idea that you have your own road to walk and that you walk it alone and if other people walk it with they're welcome but if they don't it can't be a priority or precondition for a happy life.

[Lynx122]

Yes that is true but because of my autism I was alone for most of my life in my teenage and early adult years and I was fine with it. But now I've developed a lot in other areas of my life so connecting with other people is the thing I'm trying to learn about and improve at now so that's why I'm asking this. I still have the ability to be alone and live life that way but I don't want to anymore. In the past I wanted to be alone because most interactions with other people were not positive and If I could have been completely alone in the world but still lived my life normally I would have been fine with it. But now I've gained a lot from social interactions and I feel more relaxed and confident most of the time so I want to keep investing in it.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!!

[katiesmuff]

I would agree with a lot of what you just said.

[DrPepper12]

I think your right. Common bonds and institutions have frayed.

[NathanDavis]

not mine...

but, I'm actually a very smart chair...