How to rebuild relationship with my sisters?

[Anonymous]

I went through a bad break up with a guy 12 years ago.

It left me in a bad way for a few years. My sisters are still mad at me for it.

I'm back to my old self now.

We went on vacation last year and my two sisters were mean to me the whole month we were on vacation. The only time one of them spoke to me was when she called me fat or didn't like what I wore each day. She yelled at me for talking to people in our tour and not her. Got angry cause I spoke to my mum the whole time. How could I talk to her when she kept putting me down. Also kept bringing up what happened all those years ago.

This thing happened before we went on a vacation 12 years ago.

I know it brings up bad memories and they probably haven't gotten over it but I'm trying to fix it but I don't know how.

Any ideas?

Thank you

Updates

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My sister wants to go on vacation next year and I told her I'd stay at home to avoid another repeat performance of last year. She got mad that I wasn't going. I also can't afford it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow sis, that sounds like a really rough situation. I can understand why you wouldn't want to go on another vacation with them if last time was so hurtful. And you definitely don't need the extra expense if you can't afford it either.

I think the only way to really start rebuilding is open communication. Maybe write each sister a heartfelt letter about how much the past still affects you, but that you want to move forward. Apologize for your part in things back then, but also tell them it upsets you that they won't let it go after all these years.

Ask if you can all sit down for a real talk, maybe with a therapist present so everyone feels safe to share. Explain you want your family back. They may need to hear you're not the same person anymore before they can forgive.

It won't be easy, but avoiding each other will only make things worse long term. I hope they're willing to try and meet you halfway. You deserve to heal from this too. Stay strong - focus on being the best sister you can from here out no matter what they decide❤️

[Staximus]

We don't know why a bad break up with some guy would affect your relationship with your sisters, so we can't speculate on what would repair the family relationship without knowing what went wrong in the first place

[RyanK9b]

Stay persistent. Time heals. They need to vent.