Guys, are you harsh on your son or would you be harsh?

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In terms of raising him

1073sucks · Accepted Answer

Never. Teach love, good manners and how the life works. Some kids need stricter rules than others depending on how they are in particular but never harsh treatment. Some people need different explanations than others to understand the same thing.

add activities to their life a sport or something like that to keep them busy in good things.

many kids that end up in gangs or anything of that sort, usually had parents who didn’t pay attention to them and let the child find his own entertainment gaming to become addicts, or with friends doing thrill stuff that they find exciting that only leads to bad habits like drugs or tagging or stealing etc.

be involved in your kids life. be caring, yea chi them not to take things for granted, teach them to appreciate and how excelling in something they like can lead to a good prosperous life. Don’t be too strict because after all they are kids. Never ate it to raise a perfect human, it usually destroys them or makes them depressed.

I find it sad that you even had to ask this question. People who treat others harshly as a form of “raising” should have no business in having children. Even for a pet that’s wrong. Even for a circus animal that’s wrong.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

No, If I have a son, I’ll treat him in a loving way, but make sure his dad gets him ready to be a man. That’s not something a woman can, or should do! That’s why boys need their fathers. We girls need our fathers to treat us with love and show us appropriate masculine affection, so we do not seek that kind of attention from the boys at school, where it will not be appropriate masculine affection, they’ll just want sex! (not that I blame them for that) but that’s why girls need a farther in the home. I think parents who divorce (unless there is actual violence) are selfish! They are putting their own needs above that of their children!

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Not harsh, but sometimes tough, and definitely down to earth and honest. That means telling the truth and not the pretty lies that are easier to hear. And I'd do the same with a girl.

Both would be given responsibilities from a young age, and would get the reward or punishment they earned, depending on their performance. And the responsibility would increase over time.

I believe in cross training. The boys and girls would both be given inside and outside jobs. The boys would learn to cook, clean, do laundry, iron clothes, and so forth, and the girls would do yard work, repair fences, fix sprinklers, do oil changes, and change tires. That way, everyone learns a range of useful skills and everyone learns to appreciate the work others do. I did that with my niece and when she went to college, she was the only one who could cook or do her own laundry, which is pathetic.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I like to think I’d be measured in my response or approach to the weight of the issue but never undeservedly harsh. I believe in being direct but certainly more supporting and as a coach , a friend and finally as a would be farher assuming I am ever to have a chance which is unlikely. I have had many occasions though with children and teenagers in my wider family though and I’ve been told I’m approachable and firm but fair so it certainly seems I have balance … it would always be easier with children that weren’t my own though but I like to think I could have grown into the role. No one gets it perfect. It tends to be how you can not mess it up these days as parent rather than getting it right all the time 😆 I think

MisterWack · Answer

I wouldn’t be harsh.

I’d like to hear my son’s perspective on things, teach him how to think not what to think, put an administrator lock on the computer so they need a password to download files so they don’t download malware, read a book to them every night, etc. I wouldn’t ban anything from the house, I would be open minded. I would be warm, nice, soft, kind so they can come to me about anything.

I don’t plan on having kids ever, just how I would want a parent to raise their child.

JonCobretti · Answer

I want my son to be ready for the real world. Ready for anything.

So I treat my home like a prison.

Same shitty lunch everyday, Public showers, Just 1 hour of outdoor time and he sleeps in the Bathroom next to a homeless guy.

You wanna see mom? I don't give a shit... Tell her to book a Conjugal visit. But if I catch you two hugging, I'm gonna split you like a piece of Firewood

You wanna watch TV? Fine... There's a 7inch Plasma TV drilled to the ceiling. You want the remote? Sorry.. I don't negotiate with children... So you can either physically fight me for it or watch the fcking weather.

icedragoom · Answer

I want to say harsh but I would definitely be tough on them due to the fact that I don't want them to think that everything in life is going to be given to him and that when things get tough I may not be there to protect him or help him out when things are getting so hard that you can't breathe I don't want him to buckle under the pressure. I want him to be able to go ahead and stop think and reassess himself and then when all said is done that is when he can go back and take a breather. That's when he could go ahead cry. Do whatever it needs to do to make himself feel better. I don't want him for a single second to ever feel like he's helpless and that he can't do it goddamn thing

mobiusforniner · Answer

My son is my oldest, so I tend to put more responsibility on him. But harsh? I wouldn’t say I’m “harsh”. I tend to be a little less tolerating of his over reacting when compared to say, his sister. But I don’t physically hit him, if that’s what you mean. I’m a millennial and I’m not sure about others, but my boomer mom and dad I think quite aptly fit the definition of harsh. I was a graduate of the belt whippings, metal coat hanger wire, boot kicking university. I remember what that was like, the hiding from my dad, the anxiety when hearing a belt crack. So I won’t ever do that to my kids

Benjiman19 · Answer

Harsh as in beating him? Oh definitely. I'd have my fist against his face every night..

Besides that sarcasm, I don't believe myself to be a harsh human. I may think in a more "dark" manner but I would never put my fists into play against my own (future) son.

Now, if we're speaking in verbally harsh ways, I would be upfront with him. Tell him the ways of the world and such things. I'd support him in just about anything. I'm not going to spoil him though and have him turn out to be a fuck boy with money from his "Daddy". But neither would I have him turn out to be a pussy.

I'll teach him manners (sir, ma'am, miss) to respect others and yet to care for those who mean the most to him. Teach him right from wrong and always be there when he absolutely needs me.

BTigers96 · Answer

I was hard on him compared to other parents, but in some ways probably not hard enough. I was trying to raise a man, not a future pansy. The worst thing you can do to a boy is to raise him to be a "delicate" man IMOP. You treat boys and girls differently because they're wired differently.

He survived and is doing great, married, well adjusted, and loves his parents.

BetaBucks · Answer

For every man reading this, just know that I would do anything to take back how harsh I was to my son. It hurt him. I'd cut my own dick off if it would turn back time. Love the boy, give him boundaries and be strict when it's absolutely important. Don't bully him. Don't break him down. Please.

ItsMariusz · Answer

Strict enough to prepare him for the real world, yet I wouldn't compel him to do things he doesn't want to do. Instead, I would educate him and aim to convince him to do it. I wouldn't resort to harsh punishments like spanking; rather, I'd adopt a gentle but firm parenting style.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I wouldn't be harsh but I would be strict. I'm not gonna be my sons friend I'm gonna be his father and at the end of the day my job would be to prepare my son for the world so that he can go out into it and be successful in life and have a good life.

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends on what you call harsh.

I don't call it harsh I call it loving discipline.

"He earned his love through discipline, a thundering velvet hand

His gentle means of sculpting souls took me years to understand"

--Dan Fogelberg

DrPepper12 · Answer

They dont have the latitude i did (it was the 80s) but i frequently have discussions with my therapist, wife and siblings/in laws that im so very CONFUSED by what is support and what is enabling. Im bad cop by the way. Temper tantrum screaming in the floor? I'll walk right over you and make my coffee. Daddy dont play the same games mommy does. "Lifes cold, pack your own heat" WuTang Clan

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would be strict that's for sure. For starters I would teach him how the real world works. No Santa Clause, Easter Bunny fairytale either, he would learn right from the start how to avoid living in delusion. I would also teach him to not even think about committing to a woman until he's at least 35 and has slept with 50 women.

godfatherfan · Answer

Why? So my kids can hate me? No thanks. When they do things wrong, you correct it. But you otherwise support them. You encourage them to take chances and believe in themselves. You are always there for them... no matter what.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Ofcourse... because if not, then he would be "drawn" in to "entourage" which he will Develop habits that would be hard to get rid of, later in life, and some can even get him in "Hot water" or he will end up to the "point of No return"...🤷‍♂️

DishLady · Answer

Parents are a little harsher on sons, who are expected to go out into the world and be ready for it… “tough” enough for it. Expectations are therefore a little different.

bobalife · Answer

Harsh? All forms of abuse is no bueno. If I had a kid, I will raise them with love, morales, educational, and let them learn on their own through my guidance.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nope, kids are to be loved, not disciplined or treated harsh

paledreams · Answer

I'd try to replicate the best qualities of my old man, rather than his shortcomings and the best of my mother's teachings also , minus shortcomings - everyone has pros and cons

katiesmuff · Answer

We have an adult daughter and three boys 10, 7 & 6. All are treated fairly with restrictions dependent on the age and what is acceptable.

exitseven · Answer

no, I was never harsh to my kids. They were punished when they did something bad but I never beat them.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not any harder than I am with my daughter, I believe you have to treat them the same.

DJB72 · Answer

I tell him to do the right thing. It's not necessarily the easy thing. He's 6 in a few weeks, so I'm not overly harsh.

strangeatcircleK · Answer

It depends. Because discipline sucks...  Not enough they are spoiled and rude To much it damages them as a person  Id like to aim to be a softie but effective

MacDaddyRico · Answer

Coming from an alcoholic and abusive parents, where I was sexually, emotionally and physically abused, I chose very early in life to never have children for fear of continuing the cycle of abuse.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I had a Son, never harsh, just give them a talking to.

jahaims · Answer

Harsh- unpleasantly rough or jarring to the senses. Cruel or severe.

Sasquach · Answer

I think being hard on kids sets them up for success in other areas of their life

elizamichale1 · Answer

No i m never harsh on my sons

ChiTown33 · Answer

That depends if it is needed or not.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I was both to make him become a real man!

Nifrayu · Answer

Not at all. I'm a gentle parent.

dudeinohio · Answer

I wouldn't be harsh. I'd be fair.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Harsh no. Strict yes.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

If I had kids they wouldn’t break the law.

Dongie · Answer

Hell no.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

If it's needed

impalabill77 · Answer

I have no kids.

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