Would you guys say I was being a bitter mom? or just a mom who’s setting boundaries and protecting her child based on these texts?

[Anonymous]

My responses are in blue. My child’s father is very narcissistic and I know that word is used loosely but he truly is.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Jesus, people out here doxxing themselves just to look for internet validation. It’s not hard to find your name, address, and phone number just based off of what you posted. Being anonymous doesn’t save you from that.



If he really is a narcissist then you need to stop being so antagonistic. Narcissists thrive off of attention of any kind, so maybe next time you just keep it strictly professional? Any negative attention received is just going to result in an opportunity to play the victim. If anything, you seem like you might have some narcissistic tendencies yourself, it’s not uncommon for it to rub off on others if they’ve been around such personalities for long periods of time. I’m sure you’re doing what you think is best for your son Egypt, but maybe starting fights like this isn’t the best way to interact with his father. This honestly could have all been avoided if you just said “okay, send it to my zelle/venmo/chime” instead of that whole “I’ll believe it when I see it” speech. Doesn’t fighting like that become exhausting?

[graacceey]

She literally said “send it to my chime.” And as he kept talking she sent links to all the ways he can send it and he didn’t send anything 😭. How did you get that she antagonized him and is narcissistic when he literally was antagonizing her and being narcissistic? Calling him pathetic was nothing because I don’t know him or her but from these messages he’s more than pathetic. She said very little. Y’all are weird.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I agree, it’s because I don’t know them that’s why I call it antagonistic. The whole conversation started with him telling her he’s going to send her money, and then her saying in a clearly sarcastic tone that she doesn’t believe him. She has every right to feel the way she does about him, her feelings are 100% valid no matter what, but from what I can tell of this conversation, it started when she insulted him first in this one, specific instance that she’s showing us.

[graacceey]

Okay. This is how I broke it down. When she responded to the “How’s our son.” text she responded sarcastically because she knew off back he was full of it. Why did she know that? because to say “I’ll believe it when I see it.” means he has said plenty of times that he’ll send something through and didn’t do it. It was beyond sarcasm. She was fed up and wasn’t gonna let him further feed her lies. She called It”Bs”. Now, when she called him pathetic as I read it that came after he said”You’re saying if I’m struggling I can’t see him.” “You have to give me a chance.” “I haven’t done anything with him.” And after she called him pathetic she gave a reason to why she called him that and it was because she had opened the doors for him to see their son but he obviously hasn’t been taking advantage of that and on top of that he’s not contributing. Her responses were articulate, to the point and she skipped passed everything he was trying to do and that was get her full attention and use their child to do that. I only can see it this way because I deal with the same thing with my child’s father.

[graacceey]

And let’s not forget she shut him up by letting him know what he should be saying if he truly was texting her/getting in contact with her about their son. He talked about everything but their son. All he said was “I have access to those cash apps already.” Which is even worse because he still hadn’t sent anything. He was literally just talking. I read into it like that because it’s triggering lol.

[Anonymous]

Y’all responses are ridiculous, overly judge mental and bias. How can you guys sit here and say she’s being narcissistic and terrible mom when he texted her phone about checking in on their child? and her response seems to be a response from a woman who is fed up. This doesn’t seem like the first time he pretended to care that he cares about the well being of his child hence why she never told him how he was doing but instead said “She’ll believe it when she sees it.” All I see is a woman weeding out her insincere child’s father. He sent plenty of messages. That had nothing to do with their son. He brought up old mess, which tells me they are no longer together. She has moved on and he hasn’t. She didn’t respond to anything he said directly. She didn’t try to prove that what he was saying was wrong or untrue but only further proved he was full of it by calling him pathetic. She then sent links to cash apps where he could send her money for their child, which he didn’t do. His response was literally “Oh well” even after saying all the nonsense he said. Further proving her point. Now, did she put out some private information by posting these texts? Yes, but not nowhere near enough to say it’s doxxing. I see her sons name, a street address. I don’t see a city, state or zip code and I don’t see her sons full name, her full name or the fathers. None of that means the child is in bad hands. She seems like a passionate mom who isn’t gonna accept just anything. Not even from his dad and I doubt anyone on GAG is on here to stalk someone and look up their information by using this small information. Most people on here are either giving ridiculous or good advice or posting their problems. That’s it. Y’all will go to the extreme with your responses and not try to get the full context of the story being told by the poster. And to the poster, this why I say, take advice here with a grain of salt. It’s mostly projection.

[Opinion Owner]

I also don’t think you were looking for validation. It just seems like you want to do the right thing and make the right decision for your child and you feel like you did but you have empathy so setting boundaries, which is all I see you doing, makes you feel bad because you’re use to not having/setting them. Especially not with him.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Wait, so you have a man who sends you money and wants to be a part of the children's lives? I feel like you don't appreciate how lucky you are at all.

Also, if you keep treating him like this you'll ultimately hurt the kids. This is terrible.

If you want him to stay employed and stay motivated to be a provider than you need to act at least a little bit greatful. You're treating the guy like he's a slave from the confederate times 😂

[gorydetails]

I stopped reading half way through. Your poor children.

[HelpfulWoman]

one- who the fuck names a child egypt and expects to be seen as sane?
two- posting your details is dodgy and dumb and i worry for any child in your care that you've casually doxxed.
three- you are petty and bitchy, and while it may be deserved, you are not making a good situation for your child when they grow. get over yourself and stop with the toxicity.
four- if you can't keep it civil, then don't respond.