Do you enjoy friendship from the opposite gender?

[Anonymous]

Nothing romantic just platonic

I do

I don't

[Tarifa]

In response to an earlier post "But women typically don't want friendship. They either want you sexually or not at all.".

I think that is true for both sexes. If the guy or girl had some form of expectations for a romantic relationship, usually in the form of a concealed crush, then friendship is an option that is not easy to manage. It may work, but there will always be regret from one of them that it didn't go a different route.

True friendship between a man and a woman is rare and should be valued, cherished, nurtured. It's easier when the odds that could lead to a relationship are non existent: no physical attraction between the two of you, family related, knowing your friend from childhood. Or all of these combined.

[dudegreat91]

Is it really true that most girls are attracted to their male friends?

[Tarifa]

@dudegreat91 I'd say it happens both ways: girls get attracted to their male friends and boys get attracted to their female friends. It's been going on for ages. That's why most women/men get jealous when they see their boyfriend/girlfriend on good terms with someone from the opposite sex.

[dudegreat91]

Yeah I can vouch for it when it comes to guys. I have found myself to be attracted to my female friends, even when there is a voice in my head telling me that she's just a friend. Didn't knew similar thing was there with guys. But my question was if a girl becomes close friend with a guy is it necessary that she is also attracted to him on some level?

[Tarifa]

@dudegreat91 Something one of the girls on this forum could maybe shed some light on.

I've had a female friend where there was 0 attraction from my part and we had the best of conversations. She moved, so contact is difficult now. And I have a female friend where the attraction on my part is way over 100.

Maybe we guys tend to be more aware of how attractive a girl is. We are more visually inclined. Take any girl with 10 male friends, probably 8 out of 10 would want to take it further if they had the chance. Fear from ruining the friendship would stop most of us guys from even considering it.

As far as I can see, girls are better at seperating both, i. e. physical attraction and friendship. For a girl to be romantically interested in a guy, there must be some sort of emotional connection first. I think the physical/visual aspect is less important. Maybe that's why girls at some point may want to hang out with a gay friend: it takes away the possible flirting and any doubts to where it could all lead to.

So no, I don't think that if a girl has a close friendship with a guy, she is also attracted to him.

[dudegreat91]

Great explanation. Thanks for the clarification. I don't take dating advise from women cause they are horrible at it :D

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I do, but I am respectful about it. Some of my best childhood guy friends are now married and I never contact them to just talk. But when they are around, it's fun to catch up. I always include their wives and steer the conversation away from inside jokes and stuff.

I like friendships with guys because I had brothers growing up. I'm used to how they roll. Girl drama frustrates and annoys me and it's so hard to find women friends who are secure in themselves. I hate the constant lack of assurance in female friendships. Like, did I not respond enthusiastically enough to her news, and now she's mad? That kind of thing.

But I will shut it down fast if I think there's any possibility of a problem. I won't have a guy over to just hang out unless I am dating him; it sends the wrong message and it's using him for emotional support.

[Caroline91]

Pretty much ditto... lol. Having just a big brother made me very comfortable around guys my whole life and, I agree, I avoid female drama at all costs. I want friends, male and female, that I can talk about interesting things with... don't like gossip. Now that I'm married, it makes for nice couple friendships when both spouses are included in socializing.

[just_a_potato]

I do, a friend in a man is very rewarding. Unfortunately though, I can never have enough without worrying they're really just around me for ulterior motives. A lot of men don't see women as just friends.

[ManInChains]

I haven’t had a female friend in years… but I am currently talking to a seemingly nice Christian girl in my area I matched with on a Christian dating app one of my friends recommended I start using again. We’ve exchanged numbers and have been talking every now and then. Not sure if it’ll go anywhere though… but she seems interested enough to hang out.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I do!

It's refreshing, brings more diversity

Though there is often an invisible test to pass, from the start, for both parties, a kind of romantic evaluation phase

[Breanna_nonbinary]

All of my closest friends have been opposite gender. I liked so much I changed just to be like them😊

[EmmaMary]

I have a good many male friends that I've been close to for years... And as strange as it may appear, I've also remained friends with my four ex's as well.

[thearchjoker]

I have a very good female freind I've been in contact with for years. Its completely plutonic and i'm happy to have her in my life

[serious]

Yes but I have never had female friends. Never experienced how it would be to have a female friend.

[clampfan101]

Indeed. Sometimes it feels like girls understand me better.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, more than 90% of closest friends are male and always have been.

[Abbycado]

Yep, have a few guy friends I’ve been close with for years.

[RingOfFire]

I've never been able to have a real successful friendship with a woman without it TRYING to turn into something more. It just doesn't work for me.

[BetaBucks]

Casual friendships, sure. But serious friendships are always a drain in my experience.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You have me intrigued by this drain you mentioned

[BetaBucks]

The girls that expect a serious friendship are either looking for sex or their looking for an emotional connection they aren't getting from the guy they're having sex with. So they expect 24/7 communication. It's exhausting. And for me, the sex isn't an option, so it's a lose-lose for me.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm definitely intrigued by this experience lol, okay thanks for the testimony !

[BetaBucks]

For sure!

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. Best friend since I was four is a girl. Well she's 30 now, so a woman, but you know what I mean. Three of the five in my inner circle are women.

[RedInnocent69]

Absolutely. Loving women isn’t only about fucking them.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, what few times it actually happens. Especially if it lasts more than a few days.

[paledreams]

I don't seem to and the irony is, I'd probably often think women smell at certain times lol 😉😆

[beefcakebradybatson]

A broad's friendship means a boy can get an idea of how girls and boys are different and how we're alike.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm not the friend type regardless of gender but I don't mind being a casual friend by association at a public gathering type stuff.

[DextroShade]

Wow this site is overrun with pathetic simps!

[Anonymous]

Yeah. But women typically don't want friendship. They either want you sexually or not at all.

[Ladsin2]

No. Have you ever listened to a woman tell a story?

[Lynn2001]

Yeah I have guy friends that aren’t gay and we’re nothing more than just friends

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yes some guys are really funny and protective of you.

[Jltakk]

It's fine, I'm pretty much used to that being as high as it's going to get with the opposite gender

[dustybiker2]

Yes. The best sort.

[thegreenyogi]

I do. Most of my best friends are men.

[Unit1]

yes, it can be fun or exciting still.

[elaphe]

Several of my best friends are females.

[Anonymous]

Men and women can't be friends

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah.

[DrPepper12]

More than with men

[soe11]

Yes indeed.

[jahaims]

Yeah