My mum keeps picking fights with me, then playing victim when I get mad. What do I do?

[KezHarris]

[ohsheeT]

First of all you have to be smarter than her and since you know she's wants to pick a fight let her pick it and just agree with her shake your head huh and if she said oh you are a bitch or something just say I am too and stomp your feet
... Whatever she is doing or saying..
In. A
. Temper tantrum voice I am too just agree with it cuz then she won't know what to do and stomp your feet like you're a little kid and walk really quick to your bedroom just always agree with her but yell it I am too she says you do not do that I know I don't do that. Stomp stomp stomp your feet to your room

You never do the dishes.

I know I don't stomp stomp your feet to your room

She says you are an asshole just yell I am too... . Stomp stomp stomp your feet all the way to your room

[OfMiceandMen]

Just don't engage in her games. Just tell her, you're not ruining my day with your crap. Have an issue take it up with someone else.

[KezHarris]

Thanks this is helpful!

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey, have you had any thoughts coming from this there is fault that lies with you? in some way? anyway? no way? when does she do it? has she always spoken to you in this manner? but in the last couple of years youve been evolving and responding differently?

[alice55]

don't entertain her

[MysticDevice]

There's not really an instruction manual on this one.

I'd say move out if you haven't already. (Not an easy thing to do in 2024 cause holy crap them rent prices). Get some space between you until things cool off.

[SpeedAnswerDemon]

beat her to the punch. tell her that she's gonna play the victim card before she even does it, then she won't and then remind her how she does every other time

[RedInnocent69]

Watch her closely. She may be coming down with dementia.

[Yannae]

You point exactly this out and go head to head with her. That's what I did. Feels good. You stick to reason though.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Walk away from her and take a walk, don't take that bull off of her.

[thearchjoker]

Beat her in her own game

[KezHarris]

How should I do that?

[thearchjoker]

you say she plays the victim time you do the same

[shanshu]

Not sure I'm kind of in the same boat, not me Specifically but 2 members of my family

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Gray rocking is a great technique for narcissists.

[MasterKS]

Sorry for your worse trap!

[NathanDavis]

move out

[Kingofkings1992]

Kick her ass