Do you think it's a struggle raising kids?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I think it is what you make it when you have kids they should be planned but that doesn't always happen but then when it doesn't happen like that you need to adjust they become the most important things in your life since they can't take care of themselves since they don't have the knowledge since they are an open sponge just trying to absorb and become a part of life and then start to understand life and you have to be the teacher 24 hours a day your job is to make them become 100 times better than you are you want them to succeed so you make it all about them...

You have to realize everything that comes out of your mouth everybody movement that you have with body language is who they become.

Everything you don't want them to know and you do that's who they become.

. They are priority and when you start making life about you instead of them that's when it becomes a struggle because you're too worried about yourself and your plans then what you need to be focused on and that's them. And once they start getting older they start becoming that same selfish person.

If you have to yell and scream to get their attention or to get them to do whatever it is you want them to do then as they get older that's who they become I mean 11 12 13. . That's what it really becomes a struggle because you have programmed them

When you want something the only way to get it is to yell and scream then that becomes a struggle

And if you're having a struggle you don't show them that by your attitude or the way you treat them that has to be a silent struggle that you have to show them who you are by the things you do and say as a great person not as a negative person otherwise they'll struggle all their lives

I've learned a long time ago if you're a leader people will follow you anywhere

If you're a boss or manager people won't listen to you because you don't know what you're doing..
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It's the same thing with children if you're a leader they will love you they will do anything you ask.

But if you act as if you don't know what you're doing and you wishy-washy you're up one day down the other the kids are never going to listen to you they know they can walk all over you

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

Any added responsibility will make things more difficult.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Yes. Raising kids is the hardest thing you'll ever do. Some say "but it will be worth it", but that's the rub. There are no guarantees. We are dealing with individuals who will eventually decide for or against their upbringing, and we have no control over what they decide.

However, if we look at parenting as a growth and maturing process for us, it focuses less on controlling the outcome and more on how we show up in the relationship with our kids. Focus on the relationship over the method, use your intuition, and take what people think or advise with a grain of salt.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

easily so

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely. Not only are they a huge financial strain, with diapers, formula, breast pumps, furniture, all of the accessories, sensory toys to keep the baby from screaming constantly, clothes, baby-proofing everything... etc. ; the years of the first part of their life where they can't take care of themselves, without trying to eat or do something that would end their tiny little existance, is a huge amount of stress and lack of sleep, that affects the parents health; then there is the taxes, forms, and legal paperwork to keep up with for them; the huge amount of guess work that comes with raising a child, the trial & error of what is going to negatively affect your childs personality, dealing with the screaming & tantrums from taking away said bad influence (looking at you device-parenting); the there's the parents with bratty kids putting in their unwanted 2 cents; once school starts up, there's the school supplies, clothes shopping, and the new devices kids have to have, plus dealing with school calls, someone's shit little kid or a teacher bullying your kid and the schools doing absolutely nothing, but victim-shaming your kid, then dealing with the bullies overly-entitled karen parents that think their little shit is the perfect little angel; dealing with the aftermath of the social-abuse to your kid's mental state; once puberty hits, you have to deal with that rollar coaster of giving your kid the sex-education talk and the all over the place emotions they will be going through, and if you have a girl, that's a fuck ton more to deal with, with the feminine hygiene education, doctors visits, all of the stuff you have to give her for feminine hygiene which is stupidly expensive for no reason orher than conglomerate marketing... the list is huge to say the least.

So yes, it's a struggle abd it's why people opt for a cat or a dog the is way less taxing

Yannae · Answer

Definitely. "Don't do that, you're gonna fall" and of course they're gonna say they're not going to fall, until they fall. Like HEY KID we've been kids too we know better xD
With all the scary things happening in the world, I'm honestly worried for kids. As a parent how do you feel comfortable letting them go?
You can teach them right from wrong, give them responsibility that they have to obey, but some things are out of their control even if they follow your rules. This scares me.

sage2021 · Answer

No, I don't. Unless you have unruly children that scream and cry to get their way, then it might be a struggle because I can't stand children like that! I don't even want to be around them!

But one thing is for sure - they didn't ask to be born!! So, deal with it. You made them and they are yours to take care of for the rest of your life, better get used to it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes. It helps immensely to be there daily, understand them for they are all divfferent and be willing to stand and hold ground to discipline, educate and train.

Its disaster in the making without good parents.

Chairman mao wiped out a lot of people by brainwashing children.

As did khmer rouge. Take heed…

midnightmoon05 · Answer

No… I have raised 2.. they are teens now.
my little sister have a 2 1/2 yr old and we are always willing to help.
So in all, my parents have 8 grand kids now… we do well and raise them well.
those who find life hard or raising kids hard are just a bunch of complainers who were not raised well.

MisterWack · Answer

Yes, at times it can be financially, mentally, emotionally, and sanity draining though it is all worth it when they say “I love you”.

Though please have children when you have a partner, good mental state, good financial standing, and good health to be able to raise that child well.

exitseven · Answer

I raised 3 of them. It was a struggle but they turned out good. I know people who put as much effort into it as I did and their kids turned out to be dirtbags. It is both a struggle and a crapshoot.

Anonymous · Answer

I think there are fundamental problems, dunno about struggle.
Many of our societies are not set up to support families, parents and children anymore.
In some cases, quite the opposite.
Add to that, an unfriendly economic landscape and politicians who are focused on the wrong things, an education system seemingly ready to undermine parents, it's not obviously a friendly environment.

Caroline91 · Answer

I wouldn't say struggle. It is hard. It is unbelievably time consuming. But to have the opportunity to love another human being like that? I can't begin to describe it. I am a better person for being their mother.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes.

Just how much of a struggle it is depends on your kid's personality, you and your spouse's personalities, your financial situation, your location, your amount of prior experience, and various other things.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

I don’t think it will be if both the father and mother pull their weight. Children are supposed to bring joy, not misery. They are supposed to bring laughter, not be a burden.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Not really, kids are good as long as you start the punishment early if we go by how I raised my nephew the first few years.

Account · Answer

To me it is. I admire people who have children and do their best to raise them well. It is a lot of work and they have the patience of a saint.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yes. I have never once, in my entire life ever met any person who has said raising children is anything less than the single more difficult thing they've ever done.

AviatorTom · Answer

Raising children is more of a challenge than a struggle, a beautiful challenge.

luvstoned4him · Answer

It can be especially if you are a single parent and no extra pairs of hands

DishLady · Answer

It def is, regardless of your financial or social status.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Money would be a big factor. Not long after that, morals will come into play.

supercutebutt · Answer

Yup. It's a bad idea. It's better to be a childless cat lady. :)

WhitneySnow · Answer

My mom always said so, but she loves us anyway

dreamstar72 · Answer

We had very few problems raising our daughter and she turned out great.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It always will be.  It's not supposed to be easy.

gatixek710 · Answer

Anything worth doing comes with a “struggle”

Jrg98 · Answer

Yes it’s always going to be a struggle but worth it

AmeerX · Answer

It's a rewarding struggle. I pray God give me 4-5 children too.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Certainly more of one given today's economy.

nawtee_me · Answer

As a single father yes it was…. My hats off to all the single mothers out there….

Anonymous · Answer

Raising kids is a huge struggle, and worth it in end. Family is everything.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it is. That is if you're doing it right.

Apple1996 · Answer

Mentally a struggle yes

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes it is. But can be worth the sacrifices.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Ofcourse it is n it is a huge one

DrPepper12 · Answer

Does trump like mirrors?

Rapport · Answer

I would imagine so, if not at least a little bit.

MemeSupreme · Answer

how is it not

jackieistired · Answer

Totally

andy530 · Answer

Absolutely

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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