Am I wrong for feeling a way about both my closest friends deciding being more Christ like means never going to parties occasionally anymore?

[Anonymous]

So both of these friends are cousins, they live a closer to each other, have cars and attend the same church. I mention the car situation because I don’t have one and because they live in an outskirt of the city, I normally only see them when we plan hangouts. There isn’t much room at the time for a random weekly meetup. One of these cousins entered a relationship with a man more religious than her and she now is more like him and has eliminated listening to certain music, drinking, edibles, and going to the club. The other cousin and friend that I’m closer to than the other has sadly experienced the lose of her brother, grandma, and hairstylist in the past 5 years. I think this has contributed to her becoming closer to God and attending church more. Over time she’s slowly cut out certain things in life. I respect all of this. She and I were planning on going to this rooftop dance party this Friday. We agreed that we wouldn’t drink or anything which is something we always plan ahead so we know what kind of night it will be. This was going to be just a regular night together just dancing and joking. She informed me however that she isn’t feeling the party/club scene like that anymore and this would probably be her last time forever or for a long time I guess. So I was down but I said okay

Yesterday she told me she changed her mind and she knew I would be mad and understood why I would be, but she still wants to hang out. So we are still going to but I told her that I wasn’t mad but I’m kinda sad just because she was the last person I could enjoy that with and that I feel like the odd one out with them. I’m not a huge party person either. I go in the environment maybe 3 times a year. Like I said we are still hanging out and she made it clear this doesn’t change our relationship but it just makes me feel kinda alone

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Disclaimer: I believe in God but I don’t identify directly with a religion rn. I grew up Christian, so most of my beliefs align with being Christian. I respect all religions and many of my friends are Muslim. I’ve never let religion stop me from appreciating different people. I am not asking this question to insight arguments or try to persuade anyone to think how I think and vice versa.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's really tough. I can totally get why you'd be feelin kinda left out now that both your close friends are kinda shifty away from partying and stuff. Like you said, you were never even that crazy into it to begin with - goin like 3 times a year is chill!

It must suck feelin like you're the only one who isn't changin up too. But ya know, peoples lives just go in different directions sometimes. Sounds like your friends are goin through some real heavy stuff that's made em get more serious about their faith. And that's cool they found comfort in religion, but it don't gotta mean you have to change too, ya know?

Like it seems like you respect where they're at too, and that's dope. Maybe try explainin to em that your relationship with God is personal - just cuz you still like to blow off steam dancin n jammin sometimes don't mean you love Him any less, yeah? Compromise is important in any friendship.

I'd say keep enjoyin the times you still can with that one cousin too before she fully dips out. Sucks she had to bail on the party, but props to her for still wantin to hang out other ways at least. Quality time is what really matters.

And don't stress too much man - you're still young, you'll make new friends with all kinds of different vibes over time. Maybe try branchin out more too if you're feelin solo lately. It'll all work out, just stay true to yourself and what feels right. Keep bein a good pal to your cousins too - who knows, maybe down the line they won't be so strict on havin fun occasionally either. Hang in there luv!

[LiamJHayden]

Not according to The Kry

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[Asker]

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