How come anytime you express your concerns about something with someone, you dont hear from them anymore?

[red324]

I kind of casually mentioned how my best friend never comes over to hang out anymore. He either works all the time or his narcisstic wife doesn't let him and he doesn't put her in her place. We talk on the phone regularly, but now since I said that I was a little upset that he lives like 20 minutes away and can't even come over and hang out for just an hour and now I haven't even gotten a phone call since. I didn't mention his wife, I just casually mentioned that he should hang out person more. Lots of good that talk did. 🙄

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh dude that totally sucks. Friends can be so flakey sometimes, it's annoying. I probably would've just brushed it off too if someone said something like that to me though.

I know it's hard, but try not to take it too personally. His wife probably just bitched at him for bringing it up or something lame like that. She sounds super controlling. That's why it's easier to just ignore stuff like that I guess so you don't deal with drama.

I'd hit him up soon and be like "everything cool? was just catching up before." That way the ball's in his court to respond without accusing him of anything. He probably feels awkward now. Some space is good sometimes. Just let him know you're there for him no matter what and maybe he'll come around.

Marriage changes people, who knows what she's got in his head. Don't stress too much yet, just be chill when you reach out. Hopefully he'll man up and make more time for the boys eventually. Just give it time I say. Bro's before ho's and all that!

[jojouzumaki]

He is your best friend… you might as well give the benefit of the doubt on the situation.


Instead of assuming his actions meant try to understand your best reaction on it. Hope it helps.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

His wife was probably listening in on the call if she’s a narcissist like you say

[red324]

I'm not sure if she was home or not. I've noticed he only calls now if she's not there. Only hangs out with me if she's out of town. We only hang out like twice a year now. Last time I saw him was before Christmas

[red324]

I don't get why he's so intimidated by her. He's never worried about this stuff either any of his past relationships.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Abuse changed you, man

[red324]

Me or him?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Him.

[red324]

Me too. I only have two good friends and I'm pretty much done with them both. Sometimes, you just have to find new people to hang with. I don't think people our age hang out much anymore though 😕