How to forget that someone was bothered by you talking to them?

[Anonymous]

So I have always been very sceptic about not disturbing people. I am very introverted and rarely ask for help because I am afraid people may feel bothered. Whenever some friend has given the hint that they prefer other people over me, I have left their company.

However, a girl from my class, as I came to know prepared a list of names knowing about which is very important. She told a mutual friend that according to that list, I have some issues and I may have a serious consequence ( I may not be allowed to sit for my semester final). So after much hesitation I politely asked her about it over text. She has always been on my contact list and she talks to me in real life. She gave some cold replies. Later, she told the mutual friend that she felt disturbed, bothered and creeped out. She also added that she had to waste a lot of time over me (barely 5 minutes).

Introverts will understand this situation I think. I felt extremely embarrassed and asked for apology from her. She said "it's okay, I don't mind". After that I blocked her from everywhere but can't forget it.

I'll surely feel uncomfortable to text any friend after this. How to forget this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that really sucks. I can understand why you feel so embarrassed and uncomfortable after that. As an introvert, any kind of confrontation hits extra hard.

Here are a few things that might help you start to move past it:

- Remind yourself that you didn't actually do anything wrong. Politely asking a question over text is normal. Her reaction said more about her issues than yours.

- Realize most people aren't always completely rational, especially online. Don't take it as a reflection of your worth.

- Talk it out with your close friends if it makes you feel better. Chances are they'll reassure you that you did nothing wrong.

- Give it some time. The sting will fade as you get distance from it. Don't replay it over and over in your head.

- Challenge yourself to keep being you. Don't let one unpleasant encounter make you shrink back from communication totally. Most people won't react that way.

You didn't do anything to be ashamed of. With time and perspective, you'll start to forget how embarrassed you felt. Just keep being your thoughtful, considerate self. This too shall pass, luv!

[devilish-cutie]

its not you, its her, she is being extremely rude, so dont make any assumptions about ysf trough her opinion as she is not worthy of being listened to. Look at other people, everyone has flaws and would be annoying to someone, noone is perfect and you can't please anyone. Its most important that you are okay w the way you do things and you think what is right. You may listen to and take advice from people you respect and value but not those who are not your true friends, family that cares about you etc. She doesn't even know you to say anything about you, thats bullying what she did, probably some type of her own issues and jaelousy about anything towards you. Her behavior says more about her than you, and that is how it is w other people as well. You need to claim your place in the world and be ysf, the only way to be happy is to be ysf and accept ysf and people for you will like you and those that dont, you dont need them anyways.