Am I reasonable to ask my husband not to tell his family about my miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

I had a miscarriage and I know that if my husband tells one of his family members it’ll spread to his whole family. Am I wrong for asking him not to tell them?

[AviatorTom]

It's not wrong, but you might be missing out. When my wife and I had a miscarriage, and word got out, we were amazed to find all the women who have had miscarriages. My mother, our neighbors and friends all came forward with their own stories about miscarriages, which was tremendous support for us. It helped us, knowing that we could try again, and ultimately had 2 sons and a daughter.

We learned that miscarriages are much more common than one would think, and it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

[Lliam]

If they knew you were pregnant, then you'll have to tell them sooner or later.

But if they didn't know, there is absolutely no reason to tell them about the miscarriage. It should be between the two of you. Telling others would just bring all kinds of drama. You would have to talk about it over and over again and relive the trauma.

[Kelley1]

You can ask but he may or may not agree. Regardless, it is not a subject his family will dwell on.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody needs to know about this. He should follow your wishes.

[Red_Arrow]

I presume that most of your and his families know you were pregnant. Suddenly not being is obvious. And explanation to family would be normal.

[Asker]

They didn’t know I was pregnant

[ohsheeT]

I think you would be better off if you reminded him because that is a personal matter and just explain to him when you're ready to talk about it you'll be ready to talk about it not until then

[Smashingdoozy]

No that is very fair. If you don't want people to know that's your right

[DrPepper12]

Absolutely not! This is between you and your husband and if you wanted to stay there, it stays there. I hope he respects your wishes in this regard and please accept my regret and sorrow for your loss

[V_Injector]

What is the motivation behind not wanting them to know?

[ProbablyClueless]

That seems like a very reasonable request, to me. A miscarriage is a suuuuuuper private thing.

[slatyb]

No, you are not. Presumably they didn't know you were pregnant

[Unap0logetic_]

No you’re not wrong. You’re entitled to your privacy.

[Iron_Man]

When you’re married like that, people don’t keep those kind of secrets, especially between their families that’s big breaking news

[Jersey2]

I am big on openness but I think this is fine. It may slip out one day though.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No you're not being reasonable. Let him tell his side of the family too.

You're acting as if his side of the family are strangers to him.

[jjj101010]

if it was his child, u should understand this is going to affect him too and he may want to talk about it. I would suggest u discuss it with him.

[LiamJHayden]

No, that is very personally and should not be shared with your permission.

[ashish804]

if they know u r pregnant then they should know about miscarriage too.. if not then not necessary

[Eleni06]

I don’t think so cause got right grieve to. But not allowing to get it out.

[Anonymous]

Well it is really between you two and not your family, he doesn’t have to tell his family every personal thing

[tushlady]

Yes you are very much reasonable ma cos this is you and him no third party

[Abdullah_Sheikh]

Assuming that you didn't tell anyone about the Pregnancy, You can keep it between yourself

[Cheerfull009]

You cannot hide your pregnancy and miscarriage,

[Drewtate]

No you are not but remember it happened to him too

[AGAM1]

Yes that all depends on your relationship

[jahaims]

That is a reasonable request

[gatixek710]

Did the family know you were pregnant?

[verified]

Nah I totally understand why you would want that

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely 💯 %

[jackieistired]

It’s his baby too?

[Walksbehindtherows]

Reasonable

[chocolatetwopointo]

nah u do u