How do you get over your mom paying people to be your friend?

[Anonymous]

When I was younger mom mom used to hire other kid's to be my friend and report my behavior to her AKA if I snuck out of the house or something I never had a single friend that wasn't a kid who was paid off by my mom except for online I didn't get a friend in person until I was in my twenties.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

If I'm being honest, I don't think I ever could if my mom did that to me. This reminds me of the one guy who had a "Best friend", but his aunt paid him to be friends with him. So, you can imagine how upset he was when he found out years later that they were actually never his friend, just someone being paid.

[Asker]

I should point out that I'm not trying to forgive my mother or anything but my family was liars cheats and drug addicts along with being extremely good manipulators and paying people to spy on you has made me a very paranoid person I just litterly no one no matter how close we are.

And people are confused why I'm so untrusting but I don't think I can be trusting anymore I have tried but there's always a constant nagging gnawing feeling that they are lying

[Asker]

To the point of I even give people little tests without thinking about it I'll drop some random pieces of information nothing huge but interesting and common enough that it would show up in conversation State not to tell anyone and wait to see if I hear anyone talking about it.

The information may be may not be true.

Like I'll say I'm dyslexic Which I am or that I have a real small Pinky toe and will wait and see how many people suddenly know that.

If I think they know or talk to my mother I'll say something I know would upset my mother and see if I get a call from her

[PeonyPie]

Wow. This is saddening🥲

I'm so sorry.

Have you tried telling her how hurtful and controlling that kind of behaviour is?😔

[Asker]

You can talk to her if you'd like I sure as f****** ain't going to she is a psychopathic narcissist You should get punished for the dumbest crap. I didn't even have to do it I was punished for things other people did

[red-lipstick-girl]

This is not normal behavior at all, I would not accept it.

[Asker]

I was a kid it's not like I had a choice

[Anonymous]

Honestly, she cared enough to do this for you. The fact that you're bitching about it speaks more poorly to you than it does to your mom.

[Asker]

Dude she didn't do it for me they weren't friends they were people mom paid so she could scream at me and tell me everything was my fault

[Wise4myage]

I’d tell her to never do that again.

[Asker]

Dude I'm in my 20s I moved out already

[Wise4myage]

Awesome,

[jahaims]

You never caught on?

[Asker]

I knew about it. It's why I have trust issues and fed them false information to give my mom

[CVNT5]

lol thats funny