Why do the same things keep happening to me?

[Anonymous]

I was bullied once in middle school, by a spoiled rich girl, I was bullied so much in high school and it lasted for 4 years, I lost hope, I lost my speaking skills, I became a worried person, unfortunately my family didn't understand me, I started college and everything was bad for 2 months i went through similar things again because I couldn't heal from the things in the past, I was left alone, I wasn't bullied, but I couldn't adapt to people and people didn't want or love me. I don't know how I can get better, I don't know why the same things always happen to me, I haven't done anything bad to anyone, why does this happen?

I went to therapy but it didn't work, she just listened to me and didn't do anything else, is the solution to go to psychiatry?

[_Maya_]

Now I don't mean this to sound the wrong way but I am guessing that a lot of the problem lies with you. You probably invite this into your life. Is it right? No, certainly not. You do need to learn how to stand up for yourself by the sounds of it. You are talking about this going on for about ten years. You also mention that you went to therapy. Get another therapist then. Obviously this one didn't work or you didn't put in the effort to change yourself. There is only so much another person can do or suggest before it is worthless because the person that they are advising just won't do it. You need to self reflect and be honest with your own self as to whether you are putting in the effort to change or merely listening and not acting.

[HusamRocks]

In other words, EAT OR BE EATEN, okay sounded weirdly scary inside my head but it's true 😂

[Anonymous]

I am literally going through the same thing. May god bless you

[jahaims]

You lack introspection. Your personality is the problem. If you are bullied it is because you don't know how to set boundaries and stand up for yourself. If no one wants to be around you then you are unpleasant in someway. There is no way to know for sure without knowing you.

[HusamRocks]

Break ur fears, ur falling in a deep dark hole so lift urself up, strike back without looking to consequences, u have to fight back, and this is serious 👍🏻