Would you like to train your children the way your parents trained you?

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jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

No. My dad was a tyrant and my mom was a jealous opportunity stealer. My mom has tried to kill me and sabotage my life multiple time and she alway tries to destroy my friendship buy telling lies about my personality and intelligence. My dad scream at me and criticizes me over 200 time a a day when I’m the nicest person you could possibly find. I think 90% of people would have chosen to jump off a bridge if they had to live in the abusive house that I was raised in. God told me in a dream that when they died, he would torment them in hell for one billion years for the disgusting way they treated me while they were alive.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

no

I raised my children, didn't train them... I left their bodies and minds the freedom to develop in the most needed directions for them and didn't stress or force anything... I was there to listen and explain, not to force anything...

because children need love, attention and understanding, parents need to have an ability to switch perspective and see things from their kids perspective and then... to explain to them what they don't know, don't understand, are afraid of...

rosemilk · Answer

nope!!! it will be the complete opposite. i still hold resentment and i don't want my child to even know what resentment feels like.

ohsheeT · Answer

Maybe that's what the problem is with kids nowadays parents don't have time for them or make time for them to teach them so they train them
I would have to say I was pretty lucky my parents divorced when I was one
My mom remarried when I was too and from probably four years old to 10 years old I wasn't trained I was taught with a belt and if I did something my step dad that was wrong you didn't train me but he would beat me at 10 years old they got a divorce

From 1o to 12 years old my mom was a single parent raising three kids and it was all she could do to provide for us and then she got married again when I was 16 when I was 16 and a half I moved out because that man thought that he could teach me by putting his hands on me too well that wasn't going to happen.
So it's 16 and a half after I moved out where I lived where I moved to everything that I was taught it seemed like it was completely the opposite of the way it should have been so nobody trained me I taught myself at 16 because I panicked because I didn't want to be like my parents I started searching for my real dad once I found him I thought I was looking for myself but I found out who I didn't want to be and I don't mean that in a negative way

So when I got into a relationship and I had children I didn't care what it was going to take I was going to build the foundation under the legs never going to have confidence they're going to know what Love is kindness and how to read people to know if they need help I didn't have to train them I had to teach them and that's what I did I wanted them to be 100 times better than me and that's what happened if you're training a child you're not putting the right kind of time into them or words or passion or affection are teaching them how to treat other people especially when they get in a relationship and they have children... Because you can look at many parents today and they don't have schematics on how to do it they basically just do it the way their parents did it to them and that's just totally wrong

Babygirl_S · Answer

Do I want to make it hard for my children to be mentally healthy? No!

I am not going to beat them, take away their freedom, force my views on them, prevent them from having sex after they’ve become adults, force them to marry the guys/girls I like, not teach them basic menstrual hygiene, make fun of their superb British/American accent, yell at them almost on a daily basis, hate on my girl just because she’s a female and not a male, prevent my daughter from being feminine or enjoy girly things, start arguments and fights every day with my spouse, beat my spouse, refuse to take them on a holiday, force them to take up a career that neither ensures easy employment nor is it easy to get such an education…. the list goes on

but yeah I don’t want to copy that. I’m afraid my kids may be too indisciplined (kids are becoming increasingly rebellious), may do drugs, become teen parents, hit me, drink even when I don’t endorse it and much more. I’ll just tell them politely what is right and what is wrong but ultimately which path they choose after weighing the pros and cons is going to be their own decision.

The only thing that may make me disown them is if they become dangerous for me or do illegal activities including doing drugs otherwise I’ll accept even a homosexual child, a girl who wants to have sex before she’s an adult etc.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hey, i couldnt be more different in an open minded spiritual sense, but in practical teachings my mother taught me old skool baby skills, wrap them up tight, keep them warm to sleep, but after that no repetition, i tried to raise my two one boy one girl as these beings i bought forth through the portal are not mine, they are individuals and i am their mother their guardian, my children have taught me more valuable lessons than i could of ever imagined, I've realised its the way its meant to be,, im in awe at times just how clever they are, and awake! i love it... in two generations my family proves there is evolution happening on the planet and i love it xxx

desidoll · Answer

No. My parents were both abusive and the impact is obvious. My eldest sister ended up in the mental ward and still under medication till today. My brother has low self-esteem. My second sister has temper issue and I am still struggling with OCD/instrusive thoughts. Sometimes I get panic attack too. I won’t want my kids to experience similar childhood.

phraseology · Answer

Whatever I know and they are interested in is what they'd have the opportunity to learn. I know a lot of things... Some I learned from my parents, others I learned on my own.

saraupstairs · Answer

Yes. Clean/finish the food on your plate. It sticks with you. Horse hamburger is fine with enough ketchup.

Nikki1989 · Answer

What training? I rarely saw my parents.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Let's see um both of my parents are religious Catholic fanatics no thank you. Now that Trump is president I hope heakes a law and demands all Catholic Church to be shut down.

Potteplante · Answer

No, I would not want my children to experience the same childhood as I did.

purplepoppy · Answer

No its a different world now. You can't train every generation the same because each face different challanges

EmmaMary · Answer

Training: Absolutely Not... Whatever that's supposed to mean. Raising: Most Definitely... The way that both my husband and I see fit.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I will be doing things very differently from my parents but certain things will be exactly the same. Like the wooden spoon and the time my dad yelled at me for crying too much after I fell off my bike

brichardson1080 · Answer

The three main things children require from parents are: love and emotional support, a sense of security and safety, and consistent guidance and discipline; essentially, this means providing for their basic needs, protecting them from harm, and fostering healthy emotional development through love and clear boundaries.

MemeSupreme · Answer

that title LMAO that's funny and fuck no. i got no clue how i am even alive with how my childhood was lol

AviatorTom · Answer

My then-wife and I raised our kids with the basics, the way we were raised, then we added modern technology.

exitseven · Answer

I gave them a lot more attention than I got and I tried to give them everything they needed to succeed.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I take my partners thoughts into consideration. So it's more complicated, a blend. We raise them to be polite and respectful to everyone until given a reason otherwise, and stand up to bullies.

Flower7 · Answer

No because as an adult, I now have depression, social anxiety, and low self-esteem.

JaneDoe95676187 · Answer

I would do some things the same and other things completely different

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'm a childless bachelor, and at 71 will always remain

slatyb · Answer

Absolutely not. They hardly trained me at all.

NathanDavis · Answer

you raise children... they're not dogs, lol

Agape93 · Answer

Fuck no

Adel50 · Answer

Nope. I think I would be a bit stricter.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

MY MOM MAYBE MY DAD ABSOLUTELY NOT

12karen · Answer

Nope

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