How can I let go of the need to fix everything? Friend wants to talk then decided against it, but I don't want to lose the friendship?

[Anonymous]

When we met there was interest to date but we didn't, we kept that door open but kept as friends to get to know eachother better, I introduced her into my friend group where she's made good friends.

Because of some miscommunication issues that sprung up where i feel like a mutual friend has twisted things to get closer to her, we're very loose friends at the moment, for the last few weeks she asked that we give eachother space, then that we'll have a big talk over everything, then she decided against it as it'll cause more fights throughout the friendship group so i was left not knowing at all anything of the situation, we went from very close friends potentially soon to be friends with benefits to barely friends in the course of two days.

As i have been "better" lately as in hanging out with our mutual friends giving her space instead of I imagine her thinking I'm obsessing over her to friends she said that if we just keep this distance "everything will fix in time". We went on a walk last month before this kicked off where she brought up she was looking for fun which I felt was the start of something that could potentially lead to us dating down the line, but I can't help but shake this feeling that a mutual friend thats now super close to her had a hand in causing a rift between us out of jealosy and said something.

So i don't know, I think the best and only thing I can do is just sit here pretend that there isn't a issue and give her as much space as she wants, but I feel awful as I want to fix this situation

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tough situation. I can totally understand why you're feeling frustrated and wanting to fix things. When stuff goes down in a friend group, it can get super messy and complicated.

But you know what? It's not your job to fix everything. Sometimes, you just gotta let things play out, even when it's hard.

I know it sucks not knowing what's really going on or how to make it right. But your friend has made it clear she needs some space right now. As much as it might hurt, you gotta respect that. Pushing too hard to "fix" it could just drive her further away.

The best thing you can do is give her the space she asked for, and focus on being a good friend in other ways. Keep hanging out with the mutual friends, be there if she ever does want to talk, but don't force it.

It's tough, but sometimes you just gotta let go and trust that things will work themselves out in time, like she said. As much as it sucks, you can't control other people's actions or feelings. All you can do is be the best version of yourself.

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress too much about "fixing" this. Just keep being a good friend, and have faith that if it's meant to be, you two will find your way back to each other. In the meantime, take care of yourself, bro.

[kaucky1]

Just re-invent yourself be ageless move around every ten years

[Nikki1989]

A true friend is someone who supports you unconditionally, even when you're not perfect.

[MoonFace2]

Yes, leave the door open and wait for her to come back, or not.

[Jmmmfi4]

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