I'm so sorry this happened and you're going through this. It sucks. I've been there.
You asked what to do. I'd do four things.
First, don't try to understand this. Or why they're doing it. Or make sense of it. You will never get an answer that makes sense to you let alone gives you closure or makes you happy.
Second, yes, stand aside. Let them go their way. Be gracious and kind and take the high road. You gain nothing by doing anything otherwise.
Third, be nice. Don't burn bridges. Here's why: it's entirely possible that this friend will come back. I'm not saying to sit on the edge of your bed hoping, but they might. And it's worth being in a position where you can reconnect. And in a good place when you do.
Finally, be intentional about seeking out the things that bring you pleasure. The easy, fast, inexpensive, important things that put a smile on your face. Petting the cat. Coffee. Going for a walk. Whatever -- the things the give you pleasure. Fill your life with those.
This is going to take time and it'll be hard. That's okay -- it's part of life and being human.
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I would consider them fair weather friends. They what they sound like. Anyone who's been friends with you for years, then suddenly diss you isn't a real friend. The friendship will never be like it was. I don't know why she doesn't include you to hang out with them.
I would be terribly hurt but this.
You asked how to let go of your friendship. Believe it or not, I went through this myself at my age. She sent one more text to me, and I never answered it. She has never heard from me again. We were very close since we were 13 and never had a problem. I believe I was the better friend though. Ever since I have known her, she has always tried to make me envious of her. I guess I finally got tired of her attitude and knew I didn't need her friendship. I went cold turkey with her.
You can just go cold turkey or no contact with her and don't give in. She will hurt you some more.
Life is full of surprises sometimes, and losing friends that mattered to you is one of the hardest hurts to overcom - but you can do it!
Try and be more cautious with your feelings next time you make friends with someone.
You'll be just fine 🌹
Sounds like you’ve just grown apart. Try finding someone new to hang out with so you’ll have a distraction from missing the old friend.
I don't require any effort to do this. I have replaced countless 'friends' since I was a kid. Each year, new friends. Old friends get forgotten. And the ties cut off, with 98% of these 'friends'.
The trick is to just be nice to everyone. But not a least emotionally attached to them. We tend to cross this line if we consider someone a friend truly. So become practical regarding them. That is it.
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If you really desire to keep your friend just stick it out. Make sure you let them know you’re always there if they need you. The thing is one day life is going to hit and when they need a real friend that’s when they’ll see who is actually a friend. Everyone is a friend in good weather but let’s see who is left during the storm
I was on the outs with my best friend when I was in high school. We had known each other since the second grade. I started hanging around a bunch of people from another town. They became my friends and I even met a girl that was sort of a girlfriend.
Years later my best friend and I sort of got together again and we have been friends ever since.My advice is give it time 😊
You are a little sad, give it time and hopefully everything will continue to be okay
You two will spend time moreJust realize it’s natural for someone to hang with the most available crowd. Maybe you’re harder to get a hold of…
do for you and what matters to you. try meeting a guy
People often grow in different directions.
Id focus on making some new friends.
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