How to understand an Abusive man?

[Anonymous]

Man is honest, principled, socially respected, and sits at a powerful administrative position. But he is verbally abusive at home and home only. He would verbally abuse wife for small petite things. If she reacts to it or answers back he would beat her up.
He would criticize every little thing of his daughter. With time as the daughter grew older and started to react, he would even verbally abuse her and beat her up. Criticize how big of a failure she is.
He would clearly state "I'm not interested in listening to you". The daughter and mother would do everything to please him still he finds ways to discourage them, find their mistakes, criticize them and tell him how stupid and mindless they are. He is completely aware of what he does but he is not ashamed and completely shuts them down when start showing his mistakes.
He doesn't appreciate their efforts at all. But he pretends to be a peace loving respectful man in public who has bad luck with disappointing wife and kids.
He is a heart patient and he blamed the reason for it happening were his kids. Those kids gave him tension that's why he had a heart attack. Every time a fight breaks he would blame them saying "do you all want me to die, I'm a heart patient" cuz he couldn't handle being blamed. This man also has control issues, extremely proud.

[emeraldsaphire]

Lol are you talking about my dad? 😅 Tbf he's only hit me once. And he's not exactly in a prominent position.

I think there are a lot of men and women like this. With their family they don't need to worry about losing respect. Since you are their daughter/wife you need to respect them unconditionally. If they don't respect you, it's their fault. However with strangers they have to care what they think, so they go above and beyond because they are obsessed with their reputation. It's really pathetic when you think about it.

I hope you aren't talking about your husband/father here. If you are stay strong and leave, you don't deserve this. Leaving was the best thing I ever did, I still have lots of baggage and trauma, but it's so worth it.

[Jennz6]

I can’t explain it but I have met quite a few

[Jennz6]

@crystalline0909 🎄🎁💕
Thank you honey for the MHO

[RavVid]

Women tend to use verbal abuse a lot more and there are stats that show women are just as inclined to be abusive as men.

It is not that uncommon to hear a husband say 'Thank god. I have finally done something right'.

So the question is perhaps more how to understand abusive spouses. I'd think it stems from a my way or the highway attitude. It has to be exactly what is best for the spouse and if it is not they punish the other.

[ohsheeT]

You don't need to understand an abusive man but you need to do is walk away from abusive man and keep walking and never go back that's what makes you a smart woman and a healthy loving woman if you're in that position just walk away please.
You deserve to be loved and cared for forever not abused it's that simple

[Garud]

his unresolved problems go way back, behaving this way in closed walls and never admit is just another facade, nobody can help this guy heal from his internal pains, so leave him, the more you try the more defensive he becomes, his children should use diplomacy and after getting their inheritance, they leave him on his own.

[FenixG45]

How to understand an Abusive man? You don't. There is no understanding or reasoning with an abusive manipulator.

As someone who survived an abusive wife, my best advice is to get as far away from that abusive manipulator as possible; otherwise, you'll regret it!

[Staximus]

The guy needs to get his ass kicked for beating his wife and daughter. He probably grew up with a violent controlling father, so violence is the only language he understands. So he needs to be beaten like a mongrel dog when he beats his wife.

[pierre7i]

It's impossible to understand an abusive man !!

As far as I'm concerned, any man who abuses, physically or verbally, a woman is a coward ! Yes, a COWARD !!

[goaded]

You understand fine, the question is how to react to it. My suggestion would be: let him die alone and unloved.

[FunkyMonkee]

Simple. He's an abusive man, he's an asshole, time to leave!!

[LiamS95]

He's not worth the time of day let alone trying to understand him.

[fuddly]

I have seen this profile photo before

And you're fake dude

So the question is probably fake too

What is your game?

[Anonymous]

That sounds like my father. Hello suffered from anger issues; I think that his anger was from his own guilt from his deplorable actions. His deplorable actions a result of the abuse of his father.

[ChicoFromThe305]

What a cowardly lifestyle

[bowenw]

No way to understand that. Get away from him.