I've been with my fiance for 5 years now and at least once a year (usually winter) he turns in to the most negative and unstable person I've ever met. It's only during these moments and he is otherwise a fantastic man to be around. But during winter I honestly can't fucking stand him. He destroys my mental health with his negativity during these months and I become an overall very angry individual because there's essentially no escape from his negative BS.
Basically during these moments (easily lasting 2-3 months) he will wake up every single morning and immediately start complaining about everything under the son. Using mocking voices, bitching at people, saying he "fucking hates this planet" at least 5+ times a day, complains about the weather constantly, says "why does this always fucking happen to me, can't I ever get a fucking break" EVERY SINGLE TIME anything miniscule happens (ie: his computer running slow, dinner not coming out the way he wants, etc), starts making big plans of moving to Florida and getting pissed when I refuse, starts being self destructive financially, etc. As I said, this is the only time he's like this. It's ONLY during winter. I understand seasonal depression, I have it as well. But his attitude absolutely takes the cake and it makes it unbearable to be around him.
It's gotten to a point where I will completely ignore him whenever he gets like this because I cannot stand it and then he will just stare at me waiting for a response and then say "whatever, nevermind, fuck me I guess". It's like he wants me to bitch with him and mentally I can't do it. It's going on easily 5 days where he has been bitching from sun up till sun down and I'm ready to tap out. I had a blow up about it last night and he ended up going to bed at 6pm and crying himself to sleep after talking about how he is "unworthy" and how he "doesn't deserve anything". I don't know how to navigate this because I'm truly fed up with this seasonal attitude. Advice please.
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