Was my co worker being rude?

[Anonymous]

She older and wants to be friends with me but i don’t like how she gossips so i tried indirectly telling her i don’t want to be friends and she got a little mad and said


“ i have 2 kids and is married, you’re trying to get married with your boyfriend, im a veteran, you probably like going out and stuff. and then she calmed down a bit and was like when did your mom kids. like i defend myself and said you can’t assume because i haven’t been to a club in months and hang out with my boyfriend most of the time or have a girls night like she’s being odd.

i had to explain that im waiting for my boyfriend to move up in a position since he just started working for his favorite team & had to move up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, that sounds like a really uncomfortable situation with your coworker. It definitely seems like she was being kind of rude and making some unfair assumptions about you.

The fact that she started rattling off all those details about herself, like being a veteran and having kids, and then tried to turn it around and ask about your mom seems like she was just trying to one-up you or make you feel inferior. That's not cool at all.

And then to get all defensive and mad when you tried to politely distance yourself? Major red flag. She sounds really insecure and threatened by the fact that you're not as "settled down" as she is.

You were totally right to defend yourself and call her out on those assumptions. It's not fair for her to judge your life choices or relationship just because they're different from hers. We all have our own paths, you know?

Honestly, it sounds like she's just being super territorial and trying to assert her status as the "older, wiser" one. But that doesn't give her the right to be rude and dismissive towards you. You deserve to be respected, girl.

I'd keep doing what you're doing - don't let her get to you or pressure you into a friendship you don't want. Hold your ground, and if she keeps acting up, don't be afraid to take it to a supervisor. You don't have to tolerate that kind of passive-aggressive behavior in the workplace.

Stay strong, sis. You're doing nothing wrong here. This is her issue, not yours. Keep focusing on your own life and relationship, and don't let her petty jealousy bring you down. You got this!

[Asker]

I like how you always answer my questions 😂 thank you !

[ManOnFire]

Yep, stay back from her. Never be friends with a gossip. She will just take what she hears you say or what she learns about you and go telling it around on your job, which could make problems for you. The fact that she's even being pushy about hanging out with you is a big trait of a gossip - and then even trying to ask you about when your mom had kids, I know this from experience. They simply hunger to know things about you and everyone else so they can go talking about it, that's the only reason she wants to hang out with you.

Stand your ground and stay back from her.

[Asker]

Thanks, I was thinking the same thing because she smiles in these people face and she tries to gossip to me about them… so I know she probably do it to others about me.

[ManOnFire]

Oh definitely. That's a rule of thumb: if a gossip is telling you about others, you can guarantee they're telling people about you too.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Screw your co-worker. Get your money and go home.