Not going to lie this did catch me by surprise and my heart stopped i was scared lol I’ve only been working there for a month and missed twice. The last text about me not being a baby shocked me the most. I only added the shy part in there because people tend to misunderstand my character. I never had a boss text me this way I did feel bad. And now I will only go to work with a mask on. I am embarrassed. And the reason I didn’t go to work after Christmas day was because I didn’t sleep well after an argument with my boyfriend and I wanted to spend more time with my boyfriend on our solo week together I know it was dumb I had no energy to go and my stomach was hurting really bad.
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By the way I am not going to respond to his last message I don’t even know how to respond to that. My job is very laidback and this is a job that I really care about so I’m very worried and embarrassed now.
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Guys I work at a warehouse on the computer and honestly this is the best job that I’ve ever had so I really don’t want to lose this job.
Was my boss rude?( the grey text)?
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This is how men really talk to each other. Can’t really talk like that to women because they get their feelings hurt. He was straight w you. I probably would have said something similar. One it doesn’t look good calling off the day after a holiday. Two you’re a grown woman, you could have asked me, even emailed me, as well as numerous other options. I bet you didn’t think you’d call out a second time right? Probably not, but things happen so chances are he isn’t going to hold you to your word about it not happening again. Very slim chance. You've already called off twice in one month. I’d consider letting you go if you were on probation.
Other than this I have always been early and I do do good job on my job and I am also very grateful for it so when I got this message I was very surprised and scared.
Ok but we’re not talking about everyone else. We’re talking about you. It’s a case by case process. Maybe some of them have been there longer than you. Maybe some provide actual doctor’s notes. You don’t know everyone’s situation. Were you really sick? Like sick as a dog?
I had stomach pain and I was tired regardless I could’ve came in and I regret it now because I didn’t think that it would lead to this. I forgot that to them we’re not human we’re just another body.
I heard that he’s like this with everyone he doesn’t like people calling off after holidays i heard. I will never make that mistake again this job is important to me. I hope that everything will be okay I did work normally today but i saw the supervisor staring at me inside my car during lunch that was weird. I don’t like this being watched thing.
So what I’m reading is it wasn’t that bad. But you just didn’t feel like coming in. I’ve come into work not feeling well a lot of times. Of course we’re all just another body. It’s a business. Imagine if you hired a new person who called off twice in less than a mo the time. Especially during the holidays knowing that the holidays is probably when they get a lot of business. What would you think of that person?
I’m pretty sure he’s not the only supervisor who doesn’t like people calling off after a holiday. Most people call off after a holiday because they’re tired, stayed up all night partying, whatever the case may be. That’s what usually happens a lot. It’s nothing new. Supervisors know this. So yes it gets irritating.
I don’t party im very introverted 😭 I’ll just move past this I guess and keep showing up everyday I made a mistake but I’m only human. As long as I don’t do it again maybe I could become permanent in a year? I hope so
Priorities girl. As you get older, as an adult priorities have to come first. I’d suggest later on down the road if you’re planning on calling off again you don’t do it in conjunction w your scheduled days off. Me sing you have the weekends off so you call off on a Monday or Friday, that’s just as bad because people tend to do that as well. I’m saying this because almost everyone has done this. I’d suggest during the week or something. Preferably never unless you really have to, but I’m not naive. I know it happens. I only call off when I really need to. That’s why have 280 hours of PTO and 324 hours of sick leave.
Well I hope so. If not use this as a learning lesson. People have businesses. They depend on you. If you had a business I’m sure you’d understand more if your employee was doing what you are. Don’t beat yourself up about. Just have to prove him different. I don’t mean kiss ass either.
Ironically I'm sitting in bed with the flu over the past two days. But yeah it was a little rude. I have such a specialized position, that if I'm not there, there's nobody to cover, so the buck always stops with me. That being said, I'm sure right after the holidays it's busy and now he's short staffed so everybody takes the hit, stressing him putting him on edge so as long as you have a job, I wouldn't worry about it. If you really like the job and there are opportunities for advancement, you can always become a model employee and show him your work ethic.
Sorry but HR tracks sick days after public holidays and, strangely perhaps, sick days blip up after PH's so generally there is less credibility when a sickie is pulled then. Sickies after a PH are something managers are often expected to manage.
You can see what he is thinking. You got the phone number the week before so it looks premeditated to him.
It is unfortunate re boyfriend but it doesn't justify from a work perspective. So don't repeat those reasons at work.
In the longer view, you don't want it to not matter if you can't make it to work because that means you are dispensable and dispensable people are the first to be laid off. I'm not wanting to be harsh but it is the real world and I won't be helping you not to say that.
I didn't interpret your boss's text as rude at all. He's doing you a favor; he's telling you how to keep your job. You have to remember that this isn't just an issue with you calling off work for him; this is about whether you have the ability to communicate effectively in the workplace. HIS workplace.
If I had an employee tell me that they didn't get necessary information from me because they're shy and didn't feel comfortable just asking me, I would have serious concerns about whether that person was a good fit. It sounds like your boss is going through a similar thought process, but he's giving you the opportunity to prove that you are a good fit for the job by telling you what he's expecting of you. If you want to continue working for him, you'd better find a way to work passed that shyness.
I kinda like this guy lol. I don’t know the full situation, but I oversee contractors and the excuses and call outs tend to follow a very familiar pattern. He’s a bit more forward than I would ever be and he’s implying a bit much after only a month of you working there. But 2 days in 1 month is a lot. I wouldn’t go in there with a bunch of excuses, even if they’re legit. We’ve heard them all. We just want you to show up and do your job. Everybody’s got stuff going on.
I talked to my friend about this and she said that it was very disrespectful the way that he spoke to me. It appears to be that men view this situation differently than woman. I wish I had more women opinions as well.
He seems like a rather strict boss and in my experience once an employer forms a negative opinion of you they stop cutting you any slack. My advice is to start looking for a new job. Since you have been only working there a month you don't even have to mention this job on your resume, but don't quit of course until you find one.
I call in sick a lot because I'm going to use all my time. That said, I have no patience for "I'm shy so I couldn't ask you." No... THAT will get you on my shite list. I'm running a warehouse not kindercare so buck up and un-shy yourself enough to function or find a job where you don't have to punch a clock.
Not gonna lie, I kind of agree with him. He was being kind of arrogant about the phone number thing, but the timing is quite coincidental. I don't think he scolded you too bad. He let you have the day off and told you to come in tomorrow. You should have just thanked him and left it at that. I don't know why you felt the need to elaborate and make excuses.
Wanting to spend time with your boyfriend isn't an excuse to not come to work
I’m always early. It’s weird though because this job doesn’t have a point system like most warehouses. All I know is that they really hate when you call out. I won’t do it again but calling me a baby that was uncalled for.
Almost sounds like tough love as if he was a strict father figure or was in the military or police or firefighters
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He was a lot nicer than a lot of bosses would have been. It honestly seems like he was displaying some tough love and gave you some advice that you should really take.
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