Why everybody wanna know what I did for Christmas and new years at work?

[Usnyjfid]

Coworkers

bosses

wtf

Ninjas comin out the woodworks tryna small talk about the holidays I’m lost af

help an Asperger’s sister out and explain dis shyt to me fam

[AnonAndrew]

It's normal to ask what people did during the holidays when you get back to work.

Why? Because.

The reason for most social conventions is "because." If you try to find a well-reasoned, logical explanation for them, you are usually just wasting your time, and will only end up frustrating yourself.

[Usnyjfid]

Ok. I find it weird.

[AnonAndrew]

Honestly, a lot of social conventions will seem weird to you since you have Asperger's. But society is the way it is, and it is too large to fight for a single person.

Just go along with it, and accept that sometimes you have to adapt to weird social customs. :)

[Usnyjfid]

Yep. I guess it’s one part of making friends which I want to do. Thanks for your advice by the way.

[AnonAndrew]

Yeah, if you want to make friends, then you're gonna have to learn the social rules for sure.

It's best not to worry too much about the why of social rules, that can easily get your thinking stuck, and then you may end up not following the social rules just because they don't make sense to you.

If it's any comfort, many social rules don't make any logical sense to neurotypical people either. We just have an easier time accepting that many social rules are things we do "just because." :)

You're welcome. :)

[bowenw]

I assume they are just trying to make conversation. It's a common question to ask coworkers after the Christmas break.

[Usnyjfid]

I find it odd people who don’t try to talk to me will try to make small talk after Christmas.

[bowenw]

I suggest quickly answering their questions and then change the topic to something you are interested in talking about.

[Usnyjfid]

Thanks. I honestly don’t have anything planned to want to talk about with them as they’re just coworkers and we never tried to connect beforehand so I kinda already brushed them off in my head like “ok there’s that boss or coworker” and “they don’t care about me” lol

[bowenw]

In that case just give them a polite answer, ask them how their holiday season was, and end the conversation.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[rosemilk]

because extroverts thrive on small talk. it's exhausting

[Usnyjfid]

I thrive on meaningful conversations or at least conversations or talk with people that I actually want to build a friendship or relationship with. Extros are weird.

[Gwendoline]

They are just making polite conversation

[DryGermanGuy]

Get professional help, you eternal weirdo.

[jahaims]

It's common small talk after the holidays