Would it be wrong if I didn't bring my moms cat and dog with me when I move out?

[Anonymous]

I live with my mom, and im moving into a mobile home my brother and I bought with some money our grandparents left behind. My brother and I used to live in it together, and we couldn't see eye to eye so I moved out. He moved to another city so im moving in by myself. Over a year ago my mom and I adopted a cat from the humane society. My mom was the one who brought up getting a cat, and I did show intrest, and helped pick out the cat. My mom pays for her toys and vet visits, I guess because she wanted the cat the most. So the cat spends most her time with me, seeing as o don't currently have a job. She sleeps with me every night and just hangs with me. I'd rather not bring her with when I move because I just don't want to be responsible for another animal. The biggest reason I might take hee with me Is because my mom is an alcholic. She doesn't drink ad much as she used to but when she does drink, she gets very drunk. So drunk that she often forgets to feed the animals (she has a dog) so I have to do it. Also im just a lot more observant when it comes to the animals health. I search their skin for like worrisome thing like bumps and rashes, things like that, and my mom doesn't. I really don't want to bring the dog with me because he's old and I'm pretty sure he has dementia because he randomly just starts wining. The whines every time she wants on the bed so I pick her up and put him on the bed, and then 5 mins later he's whining because he wants off the bed. He Also constantly barks at nothing. Also she's regularly working 12 hr days and if I'm not here then he'll be by himself the whole time. We talked about my mom maybe dropping him off at my house in the morning when she knows she'll be working over 8 hrs. What do you think. I really don't want to but should I bring both the animals with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that's a really tough situation. I can totally understand why you're hesitant about bringing the animals with you when you move out. It's a lot of responsibility to take on, especially with the issues you've been dealing with regarding your mom's drinking and the animals' needs.

The cat seems to have a really strong bond with you, so I get why you'd feel guilty leaving her behind. And if your mom's drinking and neglect is putting the animals at risk, you definitely have a point about wanting to make sure they're cared for properly.

At the same time, it's not your sole responsibility to be the caretaker for these animals, especially if your mom is the one who wanted them in the first place. You've got your own life to focus on now, and it's understandable if you don't want the extra burden of their care.

Honestly, I think the best solution might be to try and have an open and honest conversation with your mom about the situation. Explain your concerns about the animals' wellbeing and your own ability to take care of them on top of everything else. See if you can come to a compromise, like her dropping the dog off during the day when she works long hours.

But if she's really not stepping up, then you might have to make the tough call to leave the animals with her. I know it sucks, but you can't sacrifice your own mental health and stability to make up for her neglect. The animals' wellbeing is important, but so is yours.

Just do what you feel is best, man. Don't let the guilt trip you into taking on more than you can handle. Your mom needs to be the one to step up as the primary caretaker. If she can't or won't, then that's on her, not you. Take care of yourself first.

[Flower7]

Don’t bring either animal with you since you don’t want a pet right now. Just check on them very often and make sure they are being fed and cared for.