
I know it can be hard and impossible for some people like me
I know it can be hard and impossible for some people like me
Depends what it is.
I don’t talk to police, first and foremost😂 I definitely keep my mouth shut in that regard. Don’t ask me, cuz I know nothing🤐 Unless they’re bugging ME about something, and then I’m for some reason completely unable to not mouth off to them, I think just because I resent and reject the idea of being “policed” in life by complete strangers. Some of my friends would get frustrated back in the day, because I was the White kid hanging with mostly Black folks, Black MEN predominantly, and there’s an old Dave Chappelle joke about how they need someone White around to talk to the cops….
…. but I was SO reckless with police😂😂😂
Legit, I had a cop yell at me to turn my music down in my car back in my 20s, had a little verbal spat with him, and I drove directly over to the police station afterwards and told the cop at the desk that I didn’t appreciate that guy or any other officer coming at me disrespectfully, and for all of them to remember my face and “watch their fucking mouth when they talk to me.” He asked if I wanted to file a complaint, and I was like “fuck no, I’m not giving you name so you can target me at home, but remember my face and remember not to fuck with me, EVER.” Then I turned and walked out. Looking back, that was kinda crazy, lmao.
But case in point: the easy thing to do is shut up and turn my music down, but that’s just just not how I roll with please. That’s probably where I exercise my White Privilege the most, just being a fucking egregious asshole to law enforcement and court personnel, and I haven’t seen a day of time in a real jail or gotten shot at yet😂 America, smh 🤦♂️😝
I probably keep my mouth shut too much in terms of advocating for myself, particularly in professional environments. The situation will be different if/when I return to work one day, where I won’t *NEED* any job, so I won’t be up for suffering any bullshit anymore for the sake of keeping said job. I’m not swimming in gold coins like Scrooge McDuck or anything, but it’s enough to flip any job/boss the double bird at any given moment and walk, I’ll never be desperate again. So maybe I’d be more inclined to speak up nowadays.
It’s hit or miss if I can “keep my mouth shut” during some kind of dispute. Especially with other guys, where fighting is potentially an option. Women, I’m probably more careful, both out of kind of a built-in respect for and deference to women, where there’s a line I try not to cross. With another dude, it’s basically contingent on if getting physical with them seems like a bad idea or not😂 If I’m not talking to an MMA fighter or an NFL player, I might let my feelings rip. If I have Mike Tyson in front of me, I’ll probably hold my tongue so as not to get sent to The Shadow Realm, lmao.
Sometimes I’m able to pause though, in most situations I guess, and weigh the pros and cons of saying something out loud. “Is there any coming back from saying this?”, “How could I be negatively impacted by saying this?”, “Is this someone I care about so I want to protect their feelings?”, etc.
I’m probably like 8/10 keeping quiet, there are just a couple scenarios where I’m like 1-3 out of 10😅😂
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@Caroline91 😅😅😅
Of course .. anytime somebody wants to start drama or they just want to hear themselves talk and not really resolve anything it's better just to be quiet and leave it alone let them say what they got to say
But I mean it's depending on the situation of what's going on is somebody's picking on somebody or bullying somebody like an elder couple or a woman or a kid I have to speak up because I'm just not going to allow that
But most of the time I can just sit there and listen because most people are just venting anyway are there angry so they want to cause a scene
You know keeping your mouth shut. Also can hurt you in the opposite. My friend wanted to talk to me about a situation and I already said my peace on it but A friendship suffered because I didn’t want to hear what they have to say about the situation and then when I finally wanted to hear about it, they No longer wanted to be my friend so yay keeping the peace doesn’t always keep the peace
Sometimes I have a problem with keeping my mouth shut, especially when I am pointing out wrongs.
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I am quite a measured person , but wasn’t always. These days I have learned mostly to bite my tongue and not give an emotional response which was my go to.
Sometimes an emotional response is the correct one but I think it’s more important to think over it and give a more considered and well rounded response or to at least ask questions / seek clarification before vomitting some words out 😝.
Should I be emotional at the time it’s extremely challenging bit to immediately give a sharp tongued gut response.
Doesn’t always work though , but I do try
Yes it's important. One thing I learn never tell people your plans. I have a testimony when I told people I was going off to college to major in fashion design and something bad would happen. When my aunt advice me not to tell a soul I kept it quiet and everything went well. So yes there will be jealous people. At work never tell people that how much you make or promotion. Move in silence is the key.
I'm guilty of having a big mouth. Can't keep my emotions in check sometimes, honestly. If someone insults me, it's hard for me to hold back on not insulting them. If someone makes a stupid opinion, I'm usually quick to call them out on it.
It's not a classy trait and I've been working on it. There's no end to stupid people though and it's tough 😂
there is only one situation when I keep my mouth shut... when what I want to say can hurt others or fire back and hurt me...
there is no need to keep quiet in any other situation... :D
Here its VITAL , or you will get into big trouble , you do not confront , you complain in a certain way , you can not leave bad reviews , and you must NEVER be a loud mouth.
Sometimes there's no point arguing with people, does it matter that much to you that they're wrong? It's also not necessary to express every opinion you have and if you do there's a lot to be said about tact.
Do I know when I should keep my mouth shut? YES
Do I always keep my mouth shut in those situations? NO
Yes, most of the time. Sometimes I just can't stop myself.
Yes. 20 years with HS students has taught me GREAT composure & restraint!! Great question!!
Yes, being quiet has it's perks. I definitely know when to keep my mouth shut especially when it's only going to hurt the other person.
98% of the time I am able to be silent.
What gets me in trouble regularly, are the remaing 2% re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft
I never care for those who s**t on me first. They aren't to be trusted and should be exposed for the scum they are
Oh, I definitely know when to... it's just a matter of if I will or not.
Sometimes yes, but it rarely makes a difference. :D
With some people, I do. Some people are so easily triggered, it is easier just to say nothing.
The quote of "keeping your mouth shut" is just too much, you can use "stay silent" or when to talk to or not, of someone tells me to keep my mouth shut, a brawl might occur!
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Do I “know” when to? Yes. Do I choose to do so? Most times no.
Yes, when the conversation gets overheated and when it’s gone too far, then you try to save face
Some days I just don't know when to shut up.
Not in the lightest or slightest 🫣😁👀
at least I have some1 like me here
I'm hopeful it'll get me far in life and not in the gutter's or drains lol 😭😆
Anyways I'm sure I actually do know how to be professional cough cough when I have to be professional. Coughs. 😄😊
Really didn't think that way
Am also sure everyone talkative person knows when to be professional
''looks around'' I wet that the bed until I was 13. curious to see who knows who can figure out where that quote's from.
I wetted the bed until I was 13.
I've been known to be blunt.
I think I usually do lol
Thanks for looking out. Abby is my friend and just joking with me. It’s cool
Sure and sorry for interruptions
No need to apologize at all! You were just being nice
I do and I can read the room.
yes...
but I still open it
Its a growing process 😂
Not always. Has caused some problems in the past
it's not always easy but yes, I know when
thanks a lot... I hope this year brings you the greatest happiness
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I do, but I won't always.
When I feel like it.
I have that problem a lot.
It always depends on the circumstances.
Definitely not
Yes, as long as I think before I speak, lol.
No i tend to have to have the last word.
when I see lots of $$
Yes. The answer is never.
would say yea
I usually know when
Yeap
Generally yes
never
Yeah, I do
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