How do you live with non-stop circular arguments I tried ignoring them it gets worse? I can't leave I could be charged neglect?

[trixie479]

I am taking care of my grandma. She is supposed to take meds that help her moods but Jesus told her to stop taking them.

the drama is constant and never ending. Just nonstop name calling being called a liar a fabricator of delusions.

I feel like I am getting dragged to hell and back every day. I feel like I am being run over by a car. I have considered running away and starting over. I have also considered death but I have a special someone now so I don't want to do that anymore. they think I should just leave. I want to leave but I don't want to go jail. I was told by therapist I could be arrested and sued for leaving. How will I live with myself when she is out in a nursing home.

A benign question turns into a two day war.

I was supposed to receive money since they want me here 24/7 . I donate plasma. But they don't want me doing that anymore. I have to continuously ask for things like toilet paper toothpaste water. I have to ask permission to use the bathroom. I tried buying my own stuff. but they threw it out.

They threw away a bunch of my clothes and food. I hide in my room they follow me and bang on the door late at night. i am not her legal POA. But I don't know what to do.

Updates

1 y

I had her evaluated. The Dr said she was fine. I found out later she never went. I don't take her to appointments. I don't feel safe in a car with her.

Updates

1 y

Ignoring her makes it worse.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If the issue is that she’s not taking care of herself nor allowing you to take care of her there’s nothing you can do but make sure she has care period. Dump her in a nursing home, leave her in the hands of experienced experts who know how to handle her behavior and legally your only responsibility to her will be to make sure the nurses are paid for their work. You can find money once she’s out of the house, I’m sure. Don’t let familial obligation halt you from being happy. Despite what others might say, you owe her nothing, you are not indebted to her for anything.

[katiesmuff]

That grandma belongs in a special nursing home under professional care and she is obviously out of control. You could not be arrested or sent to jail for quitting your job and leaving and that is what the ones in charge of her need to understand. Pack your stuff and bid them goodby and let them know about the nursing home. Your being used!

[Nikki1989]

Changing communication patterns takes time and effort from both parties.
Be patient but persistent.

[White_Widow]

Have the doctor make a house visit and explain the situation to him and explore your and your grandma's options with the doctor.

[trixie479]

He won't do that my therapist said when you sign up to care give you sign up to be a punching bag. Then she told me to smile and learn to take it. wtf

[White_Widow]

Stop listening to you therapist and just start by making a call to your grandma's doctor

[trixie479]

I am going to try but I gotta get evidence first because I don't think they take me seriously

[slatyb]

Leave?

[trixie479]

I want to. I was worried about the legal ramifications of leaving. She woke me up screaming at like 2 a. m. because she couldn't find her purse. I told her I put it in the car like she asked. She proceeded to yell at me until I went out to the car. I got five hours sleep then got woke up from her screaming because I turned her answer machine off because she gave her number to this weird stalker customer and she gets mad at me because he calls early in the morning tweaking.

[slatyb]

What's keeping you from moving out? You need professional help of some kind.

[Anonymous]

What are you talking about.

[trixie479]

My grandma. She keeps saying Jesus told her to test me to my breaking point because he needs my brokenness?