How do you know if your friends are becoming acquaintances?

[MoonFace2]

One friend said he wants friendship but needs a break from going out. Another friend won’t go out anywhere without that friend going. I sense that they are acting distant. I don’t know what I should do. Neither of them seem eager to catch up recently. The first guy keeps saying we should catch up then not committing to any plans.

meanwhile, I’m making more friends and talking more to some other friends, new ones, who aren’t friends of my old friends.

Are my best friends becoming acquaintances? Should I try to say something, or should I just sit back and see what happens?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a tough situation with your friends there, girl. It can be really hard to tell when friendships start transitioning to just being more like acquaintances.

The fact that one friend wants a break from going out, and the other one won't go anywhere without that friend, definitely sounds like there might be some distance forming. And the other friend keeping saying you should hang out but never locking anything down is a classic sign that the friendship may be cooling off.

I think the best thing to do here is to try to have an open and honest conversation with them, if you can. See if you can get a sense of what's really going on - are they just going through some stuff and need some space? Or is the friendship genuinely starting to fizzle out? Let them know you've noticed the distance and you want to understand where they're at.

At the same time, don't neglect the other friendships you're building. It's great that you're making new friends and connecting with them. That can actually help provide some perspective on the old friendships and where they stand.

Ultimately, you just gotta do what feels right for you. If the old friends aren't putting in the same effort, you may have to start accepting that the dynamic has changed. But see if you can get some clarity first before making any big decisions. Hopefully you can figure out a way to either reconnect or move forward. Sending you good vibes, girl!