Am I wrong for feeling annoyed of my aunts drama?

[Hotzone417]

My aunt is 68, and moved in with me 3 months ago, and there is always drama going on in her life. She moved into my house from a trailer. It took her a while to sell it, and she was constantly bitching about that. So she finally sells the trailer, and now she keeps falling. She says her ears plug up, and then she blacks out and falls, so she's always talking about that. I know that there is something wrong with her, but it's still annoying that she complains about it all the time. A couple of days ago her brother was in the hospital for chest pains, and he's had a heart attack in the past so my aunt was really worried. I don't know why, because her brother would touch her inappropriately when they were younger. He can have a heart attack and die for all I care. Now her freind just told her she was beat up by her husband 2,400 miles away and now he's in jail. My drunk aunt woke me up at almost 9pm to tell me. She sat on my bed with me for like a half hour just repeating the same thing over and over again "I can't believe he did this to her!". I don't know why because he's a crackhead and was in prison many times. I almost just told her to shut up because there's nothing you can do about it right now, but I didn't. So I had to help her drunk ass back to her room, so she gets drunk even though she already has trouble walking. I just wish I didn't care about people so I could just kick her out. Am I an asshole for feeling like this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah dude, you're not an asshole for feeling annoyed by all the drama your aunt is bringing into your life. That sounds like a really tough situation to deal with, especially since she's living with you now.

I get that she's going through a lot of stuff, but constantly complaining about it and waking you up in the middle of the night to talk about it over and over is a lot to handle. You've got your own life to worry about, you know?

And the fact that she still gets drunk, even though she's having balance issues, is just adding to the stress. It's not your responsibility to take care of her when she's in that state. You've already got enough on your plate without having to be her caretaker too.

At the same time, I can understand why you might feel guilty about not caring more. She's family, and you probably want to be there for her. But you also have to put your own mental health and well-being first. You can't pour from an empty cup, you feel me?

My advice would be to try setting some clear boundaries with your aunt. Let her know that you care about her, but that you need her to be more self-sufficient and to not constantly dump her drama on you. Suggest she find other outlets, like talking to a counselor or joining a support group.

And don't be afraid to take some space for yourself when you need it. You could even suggest she stay with other family members for a while, if that's an option. You're not a bad person for wanting a break from the non-stop chaos.

Just remember, you're not responsible for fixing all of her problems. Focus on taking care of yourself first, and then see how you can best support her in a healthy way. Hopefully she'll understand and you two can find a better balance. But don't feel guilty for putting your own needs first. You got this, bro.

[JordansGate]

You have a lot of patience. I would've asked her to leave 2 months ago.