Does Life get any better after losing someone that was a big part of your life?

[Finchie40]

I lost my Mom a few years ago and I feel my life isn’t the same anymore, even though it’s been a few years since she passed, it seems like a big part of me disappeared, I try my best to move forward best I can , but the truth is , it is hard as hell, A lot of times I feel like I am just Fake Happy because there isn’t really a time that I don’t remember my Mom I have lost a lot of loved ones through the years but losing my Mom impacted me the most Do you feel like your life isn’t the same after losing someone that was a very big part of your life?

[sage2021]

As you probably already know that the love of my life who was living with me died suddenly 19 months ago. We were a couple almost instantly which lasted for 6 years.
Although circumstances happened and he had to move away from me for 3 of the 6 years, we waited for each other and were able to spend a year and a half living together before he died.
We were very happy and laughed A LOT every single day! He was such a funny guy and never in a bad mood. He woke up in a great mood and stayed that way until he went to sleep.
I am thankful that he took a lot of selfies and sent them to my phone because I had Googled make prints of ALL of his pictures.
He was also great at giving me greetings cards with words full of love because when I really feel the void in my heart for him I have those greeting cards (and there are a lot of them) to read and hold in my head and knowing that each card was once held in his hands.
I have framed pictures of him that are all over my apartment. I had one video of him but Google somehow managed to ruin it and chopped it up into 3 different sections.
I know that he went to heaven when he died because he became a born again Christian after being a Catholic his whole life and accepted Jesus Christ as his personal savior. We prayed a lot together and he was happy that he found the truth about his spiritually that the Catholic Church never taught him.
I have such wonderful memories of him. I miss him more than my words can say. But what stops me from feeling deeply sad about losing him is that for 6 years of my life I had the pleasure of spending that time sharing his life with him.
He wasn't my Mom - he was better than my Mom was to me. He took special care of me when I was sick 🤢 and did everything possible to comfort and love me through it.
I miss holding him hand when I am sick now because just holding his hand somehow made me feel better. 🙂
Most of the time I still don't believe that he's no longer on this earth and feel like he's just away but will be coming back. My mind knows that that isn't going to happen but it keeps me from being beside myself buried in my grief.
I am very sorry that you don't have your Mom with you still. That seems to be like a bad joke mother nature pulls on us by taking people we need still and love so much. Unfortunately that's the way our story ends with them. But they live in our hearts and our memories and we are thankful for the time we spent knowing them and that they spent time loving US. That's so special ❣️

RIP Patrick John 🧸🍪🍪🍪🥛🥛🥛💔

[Finchie40]

Aww I know you went through a lot after losing him , and I tried to be there for you ❤️ There is t any words that can describe what we are going through , so I am with you ❤️ Today I am missing my Mom like crazy ,, but I always miss her , Life is t the same for me anymore but I am trying to get there again , hoping I can one day

[sage2021]

Mother's Day is just around the corner and I will be thinking about you on that day.
My Mom passed away just before mother's Day and was at the crematory on Mother's Day that year 2007. That was really hard to take.
Thank you for being here for me when my Patrick John passed away. That was so sweet of you❣️

[Kha0tiic_xo]

I believe it will get better of course, just not right away. Everybody needs time and each person needs a different amount of time to heal and learn what life's now like without that person in it. it's an adjustment, but yes you can still and will be happy and live a good life.

[Finchie40]

I am doing my best but the hole in my heart isn’t filled

[WonderingManII]

I was close to my Grandparents and they are both dead now. It hasn't changed me that much but I feel an emptiness.

[Agape93]

Not really. You move on, you cope, but there will always be a big hole in your heart that can't be filled and never heals.

[Agape93]

What was your mom like?

[Finchie40]

My Mom was so loving and happy and positive , she didn’t allow negativity to effect her life whatsoever, No matter what negative things I was going through my Mom knew how to make me happy again , without having my mom to vent to anymore , life hasn’t been the same , just like you said a hole in my heart is missing big time

[Agape93]

She sounds like a nice mom. I'm happy you had such good memories of her, even though she's gone for now

[Finchie40]

I can go on and on about how amazing my Mom was to me and my brothers, but I don’t want to bore you 😊 I honestly didn’t realize how much losing my Mom effected me , life isn’t the same without her.

[Agape93]

You won't bore me. I don't have this experience, so hearing it is always interesting to me

[Finchie40]

First, do you love your mom? Are you close to your mom? Is she a big part of your life?

[Agape93]

Nope. And haven't talked to her since late 2019.

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

I just lost my dad in March and it still has fully sunk in. As far as I can tell, Agape93 is spot on. I know my grieving will end and life will go on but I can't ever see myself losing the emptiness I feel inside. There really isn't a need to lose it, in my opinion. She's your mom! When you feel sad, feel sad, there isn't anything wrong with feeling certain emotions at times.

[Finchie40]

I love my father but unfortunately my father and I have a lot of resentments towards each other , my Dad is still alive and honestly I wish my Mom was the one that was still alive , I know that sounds harsh but you would be reading a book if I tell you why that is. My mom is pretty much all I really had throughout life. My mom was the reason I look at the positive of things over the negative of things , she taught me how to enjoy life and how to be happy , my father on the other hand didn’t , because he was an angry alcoholic. Why my Mom stayed with him for all the years she did, still shocks me , but I realized she stayed for us boys’ after my oldest brother passed away , My Mom passed 3 months after him , I feel her heart was broken after she lost one of her son’s , I feel my Dad put her through a living hell with his drinking to the point all my Mom had was us boys’

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

That's the relationship my brother and dad had, let's just say they never saw "eye to eye".

[Agape93]

God damn, yeah she sounds like a good woman. I bet you'd make a good father because of her and her influence on you.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear you haven’t spoke to your Mom since 2019 , I never experienced that with my Mom , so the only advice I can give you is try to reconcile with your Mom
And try to bring her back into your life , because before you know it she will be gone and you might kick yourself in the ass for not talking to her , and wish you did , You ever hear the song from John Mayor , Say what you need to say? Say it, before you won’t be able to

[Agape93]

Don't be sorry, if I see her again I will probably want to end her. She was a sack of shit and anything I wanted her to know, I told her back then.

What hobbies did she have? I'm interested

[Finchie40]

She loved baking and she loved the casino , she is a twin so her and her sister were very close , she just enjoyed the little things in life

[Agape93]

Nothing at all wrong with that. Sometimes little things are the best things to keep you happy.

[Nikki1989]

Of course. It often gets so much better.

[Finchie40]

I am still waiting