Part 2 of what is he not telling her?

[Louisiana1989]

A while back, my daughter found out that he would make his mom say no about him going places with my daughter like to her house or family events. And stuff, when it was really him, he just didn't want to go, but he was great, making his mom, take the blame and making his mom look like that. A bad person. Now, with everything that's going on, he tells my daughter that it's her family that's ruining their relationship, because they text his mom about how they felt, because she really can't give my daughter any good reason. Yeah, why my daughter cannot go to her house. At all, just because my daughter didn't say thank you to her. Now what's bothering me is the fact that he never once said anything about how his parents are ruining their relationship but has no problem telling my daughter that her family is and the only reason they even said anything is because of how the mom is acting towards my daughter and won't let the boyfriend do anything with my daughter. That right there just shows me that he cannot take responsibility for anything. Plus he went to the bar with his parents after they were just fighting about him. And his relationship to me, if y'all haven't figured something out between you and your parents, you wouldn't be friendly bobbing with them, or being best friends with them. I went to the board. Like, I don't understand that, maybe that's just me, but I need to understand something or get some opinions here, or how people feel about this cause this is really confusing to me. And uh, I just don't understand it's like something's not adding up at all. He says he wants to be with her, but he's not willing to show her that he wants to be with her. So to me, he really doesn't, and maybe he just wants her to break up with him, I really don't even know, I just needed to get that out.

[Anonymous]

I don't have too much time to comment, but it's a complicated situation and I'd be careful jumping to conclusions. To preface, I'm not defending the boyfriend or anything. But just because he doesn't openly criticize his parents for how they're negatively impacting the relationship, or just because he goes to the bar with them after they cause problems, doesn't mean he's in on the problem-causing or he wants it. It could just be that his parents are REALLY controlling and that he's very hesitant to question them. All that being said, I entirely understand why you're discontent with the situation.