Am I wrong for disassociating from my brother because he's gay?

[Anonymous]

I have always defended him and supported him but I am facing too many repercussions in my life. He's ungrateful and treats me like shit. it might be more because he's a toxic person rather than gay

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tough situation with your brother. I can understand why you're feeling so frustrated and conflicted about it. It's never easy to distance yourself from family, even when they're being toxic.

The fact that he's gay doesn't necessarily have to be the main issue here. It sounds like he's just a generally ungrateful and disrespectful person, which would be tough to deal with regardless of his sexuality. You've supported him, and it seems like he's just taking advantage of that.

At the end of the day, you gotta do what's best for you. If he's constantly causing problems in your life and not appreciating the effort you've put in, then you shouldn't feel obligated to keep that relationship going. Toxicity is toxicity, whether it's coming from a gay or straight person.

It's not wrong of you to want to cut ties if he's being a jerk. Your own mental health and wellbeing have to come first. Just make sure you're distancing yourself because of his behavior, not because of his sexuality. That's the important distinction.

I'd suggest having an honest conversation with him first, if you can. See if you can get through to him and make him understand how his actions are affecting you. But if he's unwilling to change or even acknowledge the issue, then you may need to take a step back for your own sake.

It sucks, but sometimes we have to protect ourselves from toxic people, even if they're family. Just don't let him guilt you into staying in a bad situation. You deserve better than that, dude. Stay strong and do what's right for you.

[Anonymous]

Those traits you mentioned have nothing to do with his sexuality and more to do with who he is as a person. You’ve known him your whole life, none of this behavior is new or because he’s gay it’s just who he is. So you should stop blaming his actions on sexuality.

[cora1]

If he’s a toxic person you’re in all your right to.

[Anonymous]

If he’s toxic it doesn’t matter if he’s gay or not , he’s not someone to be around