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Is my father secretly mocking my independence and struggles?

Father always pressured me to help him with his Chinese restaurant since young. Even tried to persuade me to quit university. After uni, I moved back & got suckered into his restaurant. There was conversation of him passing the business down to me.

To keep it short, over the years he fell ill due to bad self-care, stress, debt, & lost his house. He gained a girlfriend, and we don’t get along. Eventually things got bad with my father as he was pushing me too hard & putting me in a difficult position. So I made the decision to leave for my safety and sanity after being there for 5 years. 7mths later they privately married without letting me know. It put me in a rlly dark place after finding out from someone else.

Last year my aunt & uncle must’ve dragged my father to visit me at my new spot as a manager. They looked proud but my dad & his wife looked awkward.

I've lost my job & been doing gig work. Few mths ago I asked him if a could get food from his spot. He hands it to me outside and smirks, “you need to make more money so that your heart will be more still.” Last night, my car needed a boost, I messaged him and he came over with his wife after work, makes a comment saying “take care of your car you need it to make money.” This is a translation of what he said to me in Chinese.

I’ve been stubborn and haven’t been relying on him for money since being more independent, and oddly, it feels like he doesn’t like that. That I don’t depend on him anymore like I used to. He also used to ask if need & now he doesn’t.

Is he mocking me? This rlly hurts me. He makes me wish my aunt and uncle were my parents instead…they were genuinely happy to see me progress.

Sorry if this post is all over the place

Is my father secretly mocking my independence and struggles?
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