I’ve been living alone since age 23. I feel it’s good be independent because you can’t depend on your parents forever & act like baby. My parents don’t own a home so that’s one reason why i live alone. My parents are divorced & grew up hearing seeing parents fight daily & it was scary traumatized me. So I can’t live healthy life living with parents as an adult. I have dreams of living with boyfriend one day, have babies, & now have decorated my home now I dreamt of. My dad and I aren’t talking few months now. He has said he’s not proud of me because I’m independent. Mom lives in a garage because she has dreamt buy a home 10 years now & it won’t come true. She runs away from paying rent or deposit or running credit. She spent her $20k on nothing & tells me shut up when I tell her to rent apartment. She’s the type to never take action. It got old& I just don’t care anymore as she likes being homelesss I noticed. Me and my parents no longer get along since I was 23 and became independent & they get angry if I say the word adult. That word makes them super angry. To them adult means sex. do other parents get angry if their child calls themselves an adult?
It sounds like none of them are happy for a single reason for where they are.
I grew up in a very close family things so I know what means controlling. My understanding is that They’re not angry at you. But they’re angry for leaving them and trying to tell them how to live just because you now see a solution.
Someone are just like that, know this that they love you. This is what means loving to them. When you compare two different family love, It will definitely different. No two family love towards their child is same. If you see your parents are different, don’t tell them, because their entire life they might have been told to correct them.
And what they do, If that’s the best, you think they can do. Let them be, and be thankful you have parents, don’t stop sharing your love if they use mean/hurtful words. Just don’t get too close to them as they feel they’re trapped in their own life/cell. Definitely they’re also victims in this.
Every one out of 10 will have this, either child looks bad or parents look bad. You sound a smart strong girl. Expecting and wanting to live a boyfriend/babies/family is good. Don’t date men to see if they’re marriage type. Date men that are marriage minded. You’ll see the difference. You’re a young queen. Life is what you choose and how you see it. Be strong, You’re not alone in this fight. You’re not the only one to fight. Your sweetness will definitely come back in multiples.
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Your dad Your mom Is mad because the world doesn’t Work like they want it to which To translate it for you the world doesn’t Work by simply Saying it into existence or thinking things into existence your parents hate living because reality doesn’t listen to them and give things to them by Simply thinking of it and your parents hate that fact and refuse to Play by The rules of reality you got what your parents Want But your parents are in another world of there own They don’t follow the rules of the Universe sounds cool right? Wrong Ya see It sounds cool like someone doesn’t have to follow the rules of the universe but then when you Realize by not playing by the rules You Don’t get any rewards in life you get a shit life in return the coolness Fades away from it all You played by the rules of reality and was rewarded for it your parents refuse to accept reality as it is and hate the creator of it All for not giving them the power to alter reality with thought alone your parents want to have magical powers And so they are angry when They see that they have no powers and then they see you got everything without any powers but they want powers they need it For there life to be good.
You’re an adult, you’re allowed to be independent and also have sex? They sound jealous and controlling tbh. Good for you being so independent!
Probably cause you have your shit more together than them
It's a very good thing to being independent
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Some parents….. Dont want their kids to grow up they want to treat them like kids forever.
You’re a adult. Tell you’re dad that he will always be your dad and that you can always go to him for advice or help when needed. But that you’re grown now.
Being independent at 25 is not really anything to be proud of. Most people are independent at 18. Personally I moved out and took charge of my own life at 17. But this is bare minimum. You also are a woman so being independent isn't really that important in the first place. At 25 I'd think they would be more proud if you were married with kids on the way by now. Instead you've finally accomplished something you should have at 18. Smh.
They sound like irresponsible idiots. Live your own life and don't allow yourself to get sucked into or involved in their bullshit drama and problems. They need to learn how to take care of themselves and are probably embarrassed that you are more responsible than them. They should be proud of you.
I wouldn't expect parents to be "proud" of their kid for being an adult and independent at age 25. That's pretty much meeting a bare minimum expectation. It's like being "proud" of graduating primary school. That's pretty much what you expect to happen if you live long enough to be old enough to go to middle school. It's something that 99%+ of kids manage to accomplish--so not exactly a source of much pride.
Very odd, most parents would be extremely happy to see their child be responsible and independent - maybe your parents are jealous of you achieving something they couldn't
You're confused.
He isn't proud of you because you're not helping them as they feel entitled to. It's what he means by "independent".
Good for you 💪. Hopefully you’ll g egg t that house by 26.
Quite possible your parents are jealous of you and would bring you down. Good thing you are more responsible than your parents. Strength and honor to you Lady. You've made it through. Be proud of your much needed autonomy.
Stand tall and be proud of yourself!! You are so much stronger of a person than the college grads living in their parent’s basements!
I would be happy to know you!They want you to be their kid again, not an adult. That is messed up, thats all I can say.
to put it bluntly, and your young enough to be my kid.. you will always be daddys little girl.
Your dad doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about
Seems normal to me, I've been living on my own since 19.
Where did she get $20,000?
Because u didn't married.
he should be proud of you
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