My boyfriend made a joke about my vagina am I wrong to feel confused and hurt?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and i been together 10 months. We have been taking things slow and as a surprise I sent him a naughty picture. I thought it was hot. He seemed to like it he was very surprised and masturbated to it. In front of me He kept saying how neat and small it is.

But today My boyfriend just joked and said my vagina is cute and adorable. I sort of blurted out that felt kind of weird.

Lately he's been babying me a lot. Like baby talk and stuff. Which I'm not very sure if I like it. its kind of smothering. He's like constantly baby this honey that then he's saying I love you every 5 minutes. Wanting me to call him daddy. Calling me his future wife how he wants to marry me.

It's exhausting

I love him he does seem genuine. I don't know.

But after i told him it was making me uncomfortable he just kept laughing calling my vagina cute and adorable. And then when I told him I was feeling offended he said he was sorry and was being immature.

Then wen I went to leave he said goodbye cutie good bye adorable. Then he apologized again saying he was just poking fun

So I said if he's clearly this immature maybe he isn't ready for an intimate relationship with me. because I was feeling put down and I couldn't explain why

Now he's texting me paragraphs of how disrespectful immature he was and how sorry he is and how our relationship has no room for his behavior.

But I'm like am I being dumb? Why is he being this way? Ik everyone makes mistakes but jeez im beginning to regret ever showing him things were going so well too I don't understand why I feel so confused.

Ik im obviously not a child by why is he treating me like one? The other day I set a boundary w this girl and told my boyfriend about it and he said he's proud of me he feels like a proud dad.

And I was like?

And he apologized and realized that sounded weird.

Can someone help me what's going on?

[TipsyFr]

Sounds like he says stupid stuff and regrets it after wow shocker 😂 He’s a guy just a regular young one. Talking in a more gentle voice is normal for some guys when talking to his girlfriend, it’s supposed to make you feel safe? he’s trying to tease you or be playful or maybe be a bit cute, from what your saying he seems to like the cute type of girl so I can understand him thinking it would be pleasing. If you don’t like it you need to be firm explaining it to him but also differentiate between what you feel and his sentiment saying it. If he can’t stop and it’s a deal breaker for you it could be the end of the line. Just Don’t be too hasty, breakups can well, you know break a relationship ✌️

[ShadowYamihiro]

Look you are right but also not right, its a thing in a relationship that happens to everyone. he is simply feeling closer to you so he made a flirting but innocent joke, him babying you means he loves spending time with you even more than he did before so basically he is falling for you deeper, if he is really treating you like a real baby or a kid then ofc tell him to stop doing that but if its just a bit flirting with basically i adore you attitude then you shouldn't mind that, if you do and i'm sorry if this hurts you but if you do mind tiny things like that then he is probably more into you than you are into him

[Apple1996]

Just tell him you don't like being called those things. Personally Id like it if a guy said my kitty was small and cute. It's better then the opposite. Imagine if he called your kitty big and ugly😳

[Asker]

I actually never thought of it that way thank you I think I was feeling confused because no one ask me to call him daddy before and then saying it was cute and small really confused me.

I think the daddy thing is just not something I'm into but I understand now there is no correlation between the two. I've never been doted on before. And now I appreciate it more that I understand

[Dinn3r]

Is he way older than you to the point he feel uncomfortable maybe? But either way. If he is older than you he should be more mature not belittling you. You sound like a reasonable and thoughtful woman and you are making a good effort in communicating as clear as possible. The only thing that is left is for him to honor your request. I hope you can forgive each other and move forward.

[Asker]

He's actually 6yrs younger than me :( but this is the first man I ever dated that's tall. I'm 5ft and he's 6'2. So I thought maybe it meant he isn't attracted to my size? Then. When I asked him he said he loves my petite body.

I wasn't really quick to do things because of our age gap. But things have been going so well for such a long time. we both have been single a long time and he has more experience than me so I was beginning to think he thought maybe he wasn't viewing me like a woman or something

He keeps saying how embarrassed he is and how he never wants to make me uncomfortable like that again. He says he was trying to flirt with me but took it too far and understands my feelings and he loves me

Thank u for hearing me out and helping me understand it means a lot I think I'll let it go for now as u suggested

[Dinn3r]

Oh I see, I guess it kinda could make sense maybe he it was in good intentions. Well part of new relationships is finding out our likes and dislikes, and I don't know I think it could take long than 10 months to know each other: and absolutely! You’re welcome and best of luck to you!

[slatyb]

"I'm obviously not a child by why is he treating me like one?" Because he's uncomfortable with adult relationships. It's seems very weird given your age. If he wants to have a DD/LG relationship, he should look for a woman who is looking for the same.

[artgorgeous]

So you feel hurt and confused because your boyfriend made a compliment about your vagina... Meanwhile imagine what sime guys feel when women tell them that they have small and useless dicks. So, a man is expected to let it through and forget, right?

[Asker]

I'm very sorry I don't think it's right to tell any man they have small useless disks. I think it is incredibly insensitive and I honestly feel like if someone has spoken to u or anyone like that it is very cruel and I deeply empathize with the pain those words would cause.

[artgorgeous]

Thankfully i don't have any dick issues, so that doesn't bother me, but some guys who really have small dicks, get upset about this. Its not their fault, its genetics and there is almost nothing they can do about that. Whereas women get upset when for example someone tells them that they are fat. Being fat is something that people can control and change. So that's the difference.

[Asker]

I completely agree with u ur body is genetic and I feel sorry to hear people are ridiculing men for how they naturally are born. I wish the world was a better place but ik we make a difference trying to be the voice of reason and compassion 🫂

[KrakenAttackin]

Ha! You pussy whipped him and now you have lost attraction. Teach him a lesson and bang his hot friend.

[Tortoise_Lover]

After reading this I'm just very glad I don't deal with this it would drive me up the wall and make me cringe. Dang I love being single and young 🌝

[Sunnybeach123]

Guys do this when they're really aroused by a girl.

[Anonymous]

He needs to move on. You're wound too tight for living.