Could my vulnerability have to do with how my parents are acting?

[Anonymous]

Could my parents think I am are vulnerable and could be taken advantage of because of my autism that is why they are worry about me being promiscuous and don't want me to be? Or it's unrelated? They don’t want me sexting random guys and trying to meet them for sex. They are just worried about my safety unrelated to my disability? I don’t not want to be promiscuous because of my autism. My autism is who I am. I confronted my parents about this and they said it’s not because of my autism it’s because of my safety. I don’t know if they are being truthful to me. What is this all about?

It’s because of my autism and how they think I’m vunerable for them to worry more about my sex life

It’s unrelated to my autism, it’s because they are worried about my safety

[HollyK21]

If you don’t want to be treated like your autism will impact how you handle every situation in life then you should stop acting like it. I say this because you come onto here often whining about how you’re a big girl and your parents need to stop acting like your autism impacts every little thing.


Anyway, there is no scenario where the average parent will cheer on their grown up child being promiscuous with man after man after man. There’s also no situation I know of where a sound-minded person would constantly rub their sexual lifestyle in their parents faces. Most adults don’t even feel comfortable talking to their parents about all that. You however, have no filter and that most likely is a side effect of your autism.

[Asker]

Yeah but I literally know girls that are promiscuous and are open about it and say they are an adult they can do what ever they want and their parents don’t interfere. Why is it so different with me?

[Asker]

And I never told them about my sex life. They snooped through my phone with out my permission and found texts from guys. So they found out that way. What do you think?

[HollyK21]

Snooping through your phone is obviously different, and you made no mention of that in your post. In any case, I have a hard time imagine that you know several women who talk about casual sex with their parents. I’ve been around along time, met many women, so I don't know maybe you’re getting the wrong idea of what they’re being open about. In any case, I wouldn’t focus on anyone else’s parents but mine, and I completely respect their concerns over what you’re doing. It doesn’t really matter what they want at the end of the day, you’re an adult and can do whatever you want. But if you’re looking for their stamp of approval, you just need to understand that you aren’t going to get it. That’s just who they are. You can’t turn them into people who respect your sexuality and honestly you don’t need to.

[Asker]

Yeah true so what should I do in this situation?

[HollyK21]

Probably just do my best to move out, that way they don’t feel entitled to snooping through my phone and I can live as an adult.

[Asker]

Yep good idea to move out

[Nikki1989]

If you don't want others to take advantage of you because of autism, stop talking about it every five minutes. I know people with autism; they just live their lives.

[OneViewpoint]

They are parents. Assuming they are reasonably good parents and not total assholes, give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they think they are protecting you. And yeah, whether they admit it or not your autism no doubt factors into their protectiveness where you are concerned. Talk it through with them until they admit to themselves there's a little concern due to your autism.

[Asker]

Yeah but they literally said it’s not because of my autism that they acted like this. Why did they lie? Or Mabye they didn’t lie? Why would you say it’s because of my autism?

[Staximus]

If you don’t have the street smarts to keep yourself out of dangerous situations like meeting up to have sex with guys you don’t know anything about then your parents are right to worry

[Staximus]

You’re r obviously demonstrating a lack of common sense