Most guys by nature are a competitive lot. Learning to accept that other people may be better at certain things and coming to appreciate that is just something that evolves with maturity. Unfortunately, I remember at 16 I was as emotionally mature as a basket full of puppies, so I speak from experience that the best cure is time.
However, I find that with the people who get C's and D's, they tend to be just lazy or frustrated. They will usually fall back on the inability to grasp the material excuse, but if that were the case, they would be getting F's. Typically, they understand the work, they just don't want to do it (and who can blame them, schoolwork is tedious.) Maybe you can explore this side of him and see if he really is smart, he just doesn't like being forced to perform trivial memorization tasks. If this is case, all that needs to change are his study habits. Maybe plan to spend time together doing your homework (stroke his ego a bit to get him going by asking him to explain something to you.)
Of course, all this relies on you wanting to change him and him wanting to change. The most straining part of a relationship can be trying to make someone into the person you want them to be rather than who they are. Go gently and be patient. Remember that a change like this could be just as much for his benefit as your own, but if he doesn't want to, you cannot force him and, if you find you cannot like him for who he wants to be, it may be time to move on.
But you go on being just as smart as you want to be. Also, let's watch the value judgements of the "sluts 24/7". They may have deeply-rooted emotional or mental problems that force them to act in a self-destructive manner. Or they could just be sluts. You can't be sure, so watch the labels.
dont worry bout it so much its a male thing. guys typically don't like it wen sumone is better than them at sumthing because we so competitive. especially a girl. like how a man doesn't realli except how his wife brings home a bigger paycheck. but like every1 else said don't worry bout it keep up your grades and focus on paving a good future for yourself. your only 16 so don't get stuck on this kid
Heh I'm a bit smarter than my boyfriend too (or at least I beat him at most games/stuff we do together) and he occasionally complains about me lowering his self-esteem. For him it's just jokes, but I think there's a bit of truth in it - for guys, it gives them a bit of confidence to be the smart one in the relationship, so that the girl has to look up to him for advice and stuff. The instinct to be manly and provide for their wimmen-folk? I don't know, but it seems to me that without the smarts in the relationship, the guy might start wondering, 'what does she need me for?'. Anyway, that's just my speculation. Take it or leave it.
In your situation, though, don't compromise your grades for your boyfriend. If he respected you and your intelligence he wouldn't ask you to 'stop being smarter than him', and would take you up on the offer of helping him study. If he can't accept it, then find someone else who will. Plenty of guys out there love a smart lady.
I have a 4.0 and I have all my life. . . he is stupid for thinking that you would do that! Go ahead, start getting F's. . . if you don't want a future! I hate it when people act stupid to be popular or something! Trust me, no guy is worth that! I would rather die than not be able to shine, to show what I really can become, and seize to opportunity to achieve my goals. He doesn't deserve you because he wants to drag you down to his level. He is right, you are too smart for him! Don't be stupid, don't hide your abilities for his comfort. Don't let him bring you down and walk all over you. It's never worth it.
He shouldn't think that you're too smart. I have all As in school, and my boyfriend is only passing one class. My boyfriend encourages me to do well because he wants me to be smarter than him. Your boyfriend should like that you're smart. Everyone has their specialties, and yours just happens to be in school. Next time he complains about being stupid, tell him that he's good at other things. My boyfriend is great at fixing cars, and my friend's boyfriend is great at baseball. Everyone is good at something.
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Highly educated males tend to like intelligent and independent girls. They don't want a rock as a girlfriend because they don't enjoy conversations with a piece of rock. Dictators, control freaks and the like, though, wants rocks. Another type of guys, guys with low self-esteem also welcomes the presence a "rock" to prop up their esteem. A very sad sight indeed...
DEAR LORD.
Get rid of this guy. What right does he EVER have to say "Hey new awesome girlfriend, could you act more dumb for me. That would be great". Come on, this should be obvious, you are the smart one here, now kick him to the curb, and be you!
I think this is natural. Males are and always have been competitive, he just want's t ofeel superior to you, and by you being smarter, he feels like you have 1 up on him. Be yourself, don't let him tell you to change who you are.
your not doing anything wrong, he's just insecure about his intelligence that's all! making you feel bad or guiltt for being smart probably makes him feel better. don't let him bring you down you offered help
ummm don't worry bout it but if he's making you feel bad for being smart and he's not willing to let you help then he's insecure and well he's not worth it ...
get a new boyfriend. You should never lower yourself and lower your grades deliberately for any reason.
Good to see the update posted.
Never compromise your intellect, you gain nothing by doing so.
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