My sister told me I should curse out my ex boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex boyfriend broke a while ago. I am going to admit. I felt like he really hurt me. I saw him with another girl eating ice cream in my neighborhood. It was NOT the fact he was with somebody else. I was not mad at the girl at all. It fact what I went through and how he treated me. I took a lot out of me to not to go into the ice cream shop and curse him out and scream at him for what he did to me. I was so filled with rage. I did not do that though. The reason is because I did not want him say "thank god I dumped her!" My sister thinks I should did it because it would of made me feel better. I think so too...Your thoughts did I do the right thing?

[krisann]

I don't think it would've made you feel better, maybe momentarily, but in the end I guarantee you would have regretted it. I think that you did the right thing, and you were the bigger person. I'm sure that's not what you felt like at the moment, but it takes allot to walk away. This guy doesn't sound like he is worth it and no one feels good getting broken up with much less seeing them with another girl that fast. He will do this to her because he doesn't know how to care and it will be her in a matter of time. Time will make you heal and you can focus on yourself and finding someone that won't do this to you. Relationships are a gamble and we get hurt not all work out lucky were not wired to just be with that one and only. I think people come and go in our lives they bring a little good and a little bad...Ok allot of bad, but you will be ok.

[agape777]

I know how you feel but cursing him out will only confirm to him why he treated you the way he did and why he broke up with you! NEVER EVER let him see you stressing even if you are you have to show him that you can do better with out him..people that hurt you do not want to see you happy..be successful and show him that your happy without him. That will devastate him. Less is more always remember that and vengeance belongs to God. Meanwhile try and get a journal so you can express your feelings or go seek professional counseling to help you through the healing process.

[Anonymous]

These things only really sound good in theory and as long as they remain fantasies. I often fantasise about saying mean things to my ex, or knocking on his door and telling him what a pathetic loser he is. But I realize that would just make me look like a horrible bitch and he'd feel even better about himself. The best you can do is to move on, ignore the person, and be awesome. There's no better punishment for people who did you wrong than be happy and thereby show them that you couldn't care less about them.

[temptationfalls]

You did the right thing by not causing drama and being that crazy ex girlfriend. Leave him alone and live your own life.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing! It takes a lot to exercise self-control. You would have only regretted it, second guess yourself, and made things worse. Also, I'm sure you played the scenario in your head over and over again. I assure you, it would never have happened the way you wanted, you would have never felt accomplished.

In my experience, the best reactions were silence. He will see his actions were awful and see that you are a classy person, and regret what he did. THe next time you seem him, hold your head up high, look at him confidently and just smile. No evil stares, no thoughts of hatred... it's your way of saying, 'You are a fool." Best of luck! Be confident in your decision!